Nobody is to blame…

 

I would like to use this post not so much to explore the topic of guilt, but to give you ideas, so you can explore it yourself.

• Ask yourself: what is the difference between being guilty and responsible?
• When a person is guilty, go to jail, physical or in the public opinion, while a responsible person looks for correcting, amending and overcoming the error.
• When I blame myself, I send myself to a jail in the depth of my mind… No escape!
• When I blame others, I send them to a jail in my mind… They will always be there!
• By blaming others, I am disempowering myself; they are the ones who did it, but I am the one to live with the consequences.
• Blame and guilt are all shields that try to protect us from getting hurt.
• Instead of blaming yourself, change.
• Instead of blaming someone, empower yourself.
• Honesty and truth are the greatest weapons against blaming someone.
• Find protection within you, by using your resilience.
• Find protection in God, by meditating.
• Find protection in others, by talking and having a dialogue.
• Why did this really go bad? An honest answer will help you healing.
• Healing is part of overcoming any sense of blame.
• Mercy is part of overcoming other people’s part in the problem.
• Understanding gives us the full picture, so that we can find solutions, instead of blaming.
• Solutions may not come, but by focusing on them, you will change.
• Forgiveness… it is more beneficial for you than others.
• Forgiveness… opens doors to healing.