Send me a text!

Ah, communication nowadays!

I still remember a scene from my childhood. An adult asked me a question, and my answer wasn't exactly the best. My grandfather immediately raised his voice and made me answer properly.

If that happened today, my reply would probably be an emoji. My grandfather's scolding would likely come as an angry text message, followed by a few letters from me in return. Letters of the alphabet, to be clear.

People often talk about a growing trend of linguistic minimalism. Maybe that's true. Or perhaps it's simply laziness amplified by hyperconnectivity.

That laziness is affecting society in many ways, and one consequence may be what many researchers now describe as a loneliness epidemic. It may take more effort to express yourself in complete thoughts, to make a phone call or to meet someone in person, but those forms of communication are usually healthier and far more meaningful.

Hyperconnectivity makes things even more complicated. I often compare today's communication to a mother with six children, all calling for her attention at the same time. She answers everyone, but briefly, hurriedly, just trying to keep up.

Our phones create a similar experience. Every time we unlock the screen, there are messages waiting, notifications demanding attention and countless distractions competing for a few seconds of our focus. Add our own curiosity - a funny dog video, the latest headlines, an interesting gadget - and it's no surprise that we answer as quickly and as briefly as possible.

Technology has made communication faster. The challenge is making sure it doesn't also make it shallower.

So, what can we do?

I'm not proposing a revolution or a rebellion. But I am concerned about the gradual isolation and superficiality that can creep into our relationships. So, I've been trying a few simple practices.

• Whenever possible, I choose to call or meet in person instead of sending a text. It isn't always practical, but when a conversation can prevent misunderstandings or speed up a decision, a phone call is often the better investment.
• Group chats can be surprisingly inefficient. Reaching a decision becomes difficult when everyone keeps adding messages, voice notes or long explanations instead of using simple tools like polls. Sometimes people end up agreeing simply because they are tired of the conversation or want to avoid conflict. When I notice that happening, I usually wait a day or two before sharing my opinion. It gives everyone - including me - time to think more clearly.
• I do send voice messages, but as sparingly as I can. They require time from people who are probably already busy. If I don't receive a reply, I often follow up with a short-written summary - or better yet, I simply make a call.
• A few years ago, I became aware of the subtle impact our thoughts and feelings have on others. I try to remember that whenever I am communicating remotely. Especially if the conversation is difficult and my emotions aren't at their best, I first try to clean my mind and cultivate good wishes. Whether you're writing a message or speaking face to face, with or without emojis, your inner state always finds a way to reach the other person.

So yes, send me a text if you need to. But whenever the conversation matters, call me instead. Some conversations deserve more than a screen, and some relationships deserve more than a few typed words. 

When Flexibility Becomes the Bond That Unites Us

When I came to live in Colombia, I began learning one of life's most valuable lessons: flexibility. It means being willing to compromise for the sake of better relationships, listening to others, questioning old paradigms and sometimes changing the way we deal with reality.

Over the years, while observing a country often marked by polarization, I noticed something that, at least to me, seemed to hold people together: their natural flexibility. It is not a perfect solution, but it often becomes the bridge that allows people to move forward despite their differences.

For instance, I have a good friend who is really at one of the extremes in terms of ideology, and yet she was open to have a spiritual meditation with someone who is in the other extreme… It is not only functional; they really appreciated each other.

So, sharing from my own observations and experience, here are a few thoughts:

• Being flexible does not mean being permissive. It means knowing your priorities while making room for others.
• Your flexibility will not always be matched by others, but it is often the first step toward understanding and agreement.
• Every negotiation involves giving up something. The key is to let go of what matters least so you can preserve what matters most.
• Flexibility is, in many ways, the art of negotiating your way through life. Let others go first when you can and you will often find they do the same for you when your turn comes.

We all face challenges, and each of us is doing our best to overcome them. Perhaps one of the simplest ways to improve our relationships - and sometimes our lives - is to become just a little more flexible.

To learn, it is not that easy…

 

I remember when I was at school and Brazil was entering the "car age." Almost everyone was buying a car as they were relatively affordable, easy to drive, and even when you changed to a different model, learning to drive it wasn't a big challenge.

Today, we live in what could be called the learning age. The expectation seems similar: learning should be cheap and easy. Cheap... in many ways it is, at least for the average person. Although, if we look behind the scenes, the investment made by companies and governments is enormous. Perhaps one day those costs will come knocking at our door…

But the "easy" part? I'm not so sure.

Take one of the most common devices in our lives: the smartphone. Every model - even within the same brand - is different. Every time we replace one, we have to learn... again.

Or maybe we don't. That is probably the option most people choose. The changes in menus, layouts and features can be overwhelming, so we simply keep using the new phone as if it were the old one. We ignore most of what has changed because, for everyday life, what we already know is usually enough.

There is always a learning curve. It remains relatively gentle if we are happy staying within our comfort zone and using things as we always have.

But if we really want to take advantage of the new possibilities, the learning curve becomes much steeper.

And we are only talking about smartphones. The same is happening in medicine, education, technology, communication and almost every profession. Knowledge is expanding faster than our capacity to absorb it.

It is a paradox - a kind of K-Curve. Learning has never been more accessible, yet meaningful learning has rarely been more demanding.

So, what can we do?

• Understand the purpose of your learning. If you are buying a new phone, spend a little time discovering the features that will genuinely improve your daily life. Perhaps it has an excellent speech-to-text function or a tool that saves you hours every week. Learn what serves you, not everything it can do.
• Focus on what you really need to know. When you have to learn anything, compare different ways of doing it and choose the simplest, fastest and most practical path.
• Learn with discernment. A great course or an inspiring lecture can transform the way we think - and as a business consultant, I strongly believe in lifelong learning. Still, before committing your time, ask yourself three questions:
• Will this change the way I think about or approach my work?
• Will it give me practical tools to improve?
• Am I truly going to use what I learn?
• The first two questions help you evaluate the quality of the learning. The third helps you evaluate its usefulness. If the answer to that last question is a clear "no," perhaps this is not the right time.
• Finally, remember that you do not need to learn everything. Even doctors do not master every disease or treatment before they begin practicing; they continue learning by applying knowledge in real situations. The same is true for almost every field: you need a specific feature on your phone, you can learn it then; you want to build better relationships, you can work on them with the help of a coach. Knowledge grows through use, not merely through accumulation.

Perhaps the greatest skill of our time is not learning more, but learning better. In a world overflowing with information and knowledge, wisdom lies in choosing what deserves our attention, what deserves our time and what deserves a place in our lives.

The meaning of connection

 

Have you ever noticed that, although we live in the most connected age in history, many people have never felt so alone?

It sounds like a contradiction, yet it is becoming one of the defining challenges of our time. In recent years, the World Health Organization and the U.S. Surgeon General have described loneliness and social isolation as a major public health concern. What became painfully visible during the pandemic did not disappear when the lockdowns ended - it simply changed shape: human beings are designed for connection.

We don't simply enjoy it; we need it. Meaningful relationships influence how our brains function, how we learn, how we work, how we cope with stress and even how our immune system responds. When genuine connection is missing, all dimensions of our health - emotional, mental physical, social, financial - begin to suffer.

Yet there is another side to the story: being constantly connected is not the same as being deeply connected.

Our phones rarely stop vibrating with messages arriving around the clock. News never sleeps and social media invites us into hundreds - even thousands - of lives at once. We are expected, or at least we think so, to respond, react, compare and keep up. Eventually, our attention becomes fragmented, stress quietly settles in, and for many, chronic exhaustion evolves into burnout.

It makes me think the problem is not that the number of connections, but the majority is superficial. What takes us to spend too little time to nurture the ones that truly matter.

Interestingly, the word yoga literally means connection, a union, as if we consciously return to what is essential.

When we deliberately reconnect with ourselves by experiencing yoga, we begin to listen to the inner voice that stress has silenced. We heal wounds left by hurried relationships, unrealistic expectations and a life lived on autopilot. And when that connection extends to God, we stop depending solely on our limited emotional reserves and we draw strength from a Source that is constant, peaceful and unconditional.

Maybe that is the invitation for all of us.

Not to collect more contacts.

Not to chase more conversations.

Not even to spend less time online.

It is time to reinforce those meaningful connections, to avoid the pointless ones and to dedicate more time in beautiful yoga experiences.

If you are working in an organization, how to develop trust?

 

Organizations are not a natural human environment.

We come from families, communities, tribes, religious groups and neighborhoods. In those settings, trust develops over time through conversations, shared experiences, keeping our word and supporting one another. It grows because people consistently show who they are.

Organizations are different. Today, with many people working remotely - or hoping to - building trust has become even more challenging. Yet it has never been more necessary.

Trust is the foundation of cohesion, one of the core values of any healthy organization, the pavement of the bridges that connect people and make collaboration possible.

There is no real team without trust and there is no high-performance work without it. After all, how can we truly work with someone if we don't trust them?

Like any meaningful relationship, trust does not appear overnight. It is cultivated, one interaction at a time. Here are a few ideas that may help:

• Be aware of your environment and the culture of the organization where you work or serve. Understanding the existing level of trust is the first step toward strengthening it.
• Lead yourself first by choosing to trust others. You don't need dramatic gestures and especially when a relationship is new or still superficial, small steps are enough to begin.
• If you are a leader, create a safe environment where people can trust one another. During many years of working with organizations, one of the most powerful moments in workshops was often a trust-building exercise. It may not solve everything, but it can be an excellent starting point.
• If you are not in a leadership position, never underestimate small acts of kindness. Remember someone's birthday, celebrate a colleague's success or simply be present when someone needs support. These everyday actions strengthen relationships, and trust naturally follows.
• If you find yourself distrusting someone, don't let the distance grow. Have an honest conversation, perhaps with a neutral facilitator if needed, and try to rebuild the bridge.
• And if you sense that others don't yet trust you, be patient. Stay consistent and let your actions speak over time. Trust is rarely won through words alone; it is earned through coherence. Eventually, people will recognize your character and place their confidence in you.

Trust is not built through extraordinary moments. More often, it is created in a common way, consistently over time.

Modern life and hyperconnectivity, and connection…

 

I do remember the time I used to say goodbye to everyone at home before leaving for work. Except for the occasional phone call during the day - "Don't forget to bring the milk!" - there was a certain detachment from home. Anything truly urgent happened only a few times a year, and otherwise we would simply meet again in the evening. It was common to find around the place handwritten notes with reminders. Life moved at a slower pace, at least compared to today.

Our story is different now. From the moment we wake up until we go to bed, we are connected. Family, friends, colleagues, clients... and, of course, the occasional telemarketer. We are hyperconnected with everyone and everything.

And in many ways, it is wonderful. Not so long ago, access to information and opportunities depended on where you lived or who you knew. Today, we can reach almost anyone, learn almost anything, and collaborate across continents. It feels like a dream humanity has finally fulfilled.

And yet... while the roses have bloomed, so have the thorns. Anxiety is rising, loneliness is becoming more common, our attention is fragmented, and even our physical health is paying the price.

So, what should we do? Unplug completely? For a weekend, perhaps. For a lifetime, probably not. Hyperconnectivity is not going away, so maybe the real invitation is not to so much disconnect from technology, but to rediscover what connection actually means.

And connection is much more than exchanging information. It is the ability to be genuinely present. To listen without looking at the next message, to give someone our attention without mentally being somewhere else and to allow another person - or even a place, an idea, or a moment - to touch something within us.

The irony is that while technology has expanded our network beyond anything previous generations could imagine, our hearts have not changed. We are still human beings with a limited capacity for meaningful relationships. We can communicate with hundreds, but we can truly connect with only a few at a time.

Perhaps that is why so many people long for the good old days. Not because life was easier or technology was absent, but because presence was more common. We had fewer conversations, yet they often went deeper, and even though we knew less, we noticed more.

Maybe the challenge of our time is not to become less connected, but to become more intentional. To use hyperconnectivity as a tool without allowing it to become our master. To remember that every time we rely on that world wide web, we may be missing a moment with reality.

Because at the end of the day, we don't simply need more connections. We need deeper ones.

Modern life and its effect on our health

 

It is not easy to pinpoint exactly why our agitated, chaotic and uncertain modern life affects our health so profoundly.

Many studies focus on the obvious factors. We sit for long periods, spend countless hours in front of screens, eat highly processed foods, sleep less than we should and live under the constant risk of stress and burnout. These factors certainly matter and their impact on physical and mental health is increasingly well documented.

Yet I am interested in something more subtle.

We are living through one of the greatest transformations in human history. For the first time, billions of people are connected almost continuously. Messages, news, videos, opinions, alerts and demands arrive every minute of every day. Although research is still trying to understand the long-term consequences of this hyperconnected world, it seems obvious that something is changing in the way we perceive reality.

Our attention is fragmented, silence has become rare, waiting is quite uncomfortable and relationships are increasingly mediated by screens. Even our sense of self can become influenced by the endless flow of information.

No doubt that technology has brought extraordinary benefits as it allows us to learn, communicate, work and access knowledge in ways that previous generations could hardly imagine; I am a living proof of the achievements facilitated by IT. It is difficult to imagine society stepping back from these conveniences. After all, you may be reading this article comfortably from your home, a café, a park or while travelling, because of it, instead of being chained to one place.

The challenge, then, is not to reject modern life, but to learn how to live well within it.

For me, this means investing time and energy in four important areas.

1. Lifestyle. This is an area completely intertwined with health. And maybe it is not something about radical changes. It begins with an intention: the desire to take care of ourselves. Healthy eating, regular exercise, meaningful relationships and positive habits, all contribute to physical, emotional and spiritual well-being. Add to that positive reading and trips to learn and we have a wonderful way to change the impact of modern life.

2. Movement. Movement is more than exercise and although many people do workout, they go and then spend the rest of the day sitting… Our bodies were designed to move: walking, visiting friends, attending a spiritual gathering, spending time in a park or simply leaving the house can make a significant difference. Movement reconnects us with life itself.

3. Relaxation. Perhaps one of the greatest needs of our time is genuine relaxation. Modern life constantly stimulates the mind and notifications, deadlines, emails and messages keep the nervous system in a near-permanent state of alertness. We need moments of recovery: a deep sleep, quiet walks, periods of time completely disconnected and moments when nothing is demanded of us. A period of detox will be nice… Relaxation is not a luxury; it is maintenance for the mind and body.

4. Meditation. If there is one practice that can transform our relationship with modern life, it is meditation. Meditation allows us to step back from the noise and reconnect with our inner world: it restores clarity, stability, and perspective. Instead of being carried away by the speed of life, we learn to observe, understand, and respond with greater wisdom. For me, meditation is not an escape from modern life, but a way of making modern life more meaningful.

The world will probably continue to become faster, more connected, more uncertain and more complex and we may not be able to change that. What we can do is to choose how we live within it.