Taking a Decision Break…

 

Some time ago, I wrote about decision fatigue - that invisible drain that happens when we are constantly making choices, both big and small. At that time, I briefly mentioned something I called a decision break. But what is that, really?

While the term can have other meanings, here I’m focusing on pausing in the middle of a decision process. Why does it matter?

We all know that some decisions are quick and almost automatic, while others take a lot of thought. When a decision process drags on, it doesn’t just consume time - it consumes energy. The more we think, compare, evaluate and second-guess, the more exhausted we become.

And what happens when we’re exhausted? We become more likely to choose the easiest or more convenient option. instead of the right one. In other words, a decision fatigue pushes us toward bad choices - not because we would not know better, but because we were too tired to follow through. That is the point in which a decision break comes in.

Stop, rest and then decide… It means giving yourself permission to step away from the process before finalizing, rather than forcing an answer.

By taking a decision break, you allow your mind to recharge by using many methods and tactics, such as:

• Sleeping on it before replying.
• Taking a walk instead of staring at the options again and again.
• Shifting focus to something completely different, so the brain can “breathe”.
• Talking to a different person, hopefully someone who is not involved in the decision process.
• Read and write, reflecting on life, being…

The effect is almost magical as what felt tangled suddenly looks clearer and that impossible decision is now manageable.

A break doesn’t just save energy; it restores perspective. When you pause, your subconscious keeps working in the background, integrating information without the stress of constant analysis. That’s why sometimes, after a break, the answer “just comes”.

I would like to suggest you a small practice for your next decision:

1. Pause. It can be calling a good friend, taking a coffee break or meditate. The longer the pause (without compromising the process you are), more relaxed you will become and fatigue will be prevented.
2. Step away - physically or mentally. Close the computer for one hour, go for a walk alone or with someone who is not going to talk to you about the process itself. If it is possible, disconnect yourself and enjoy a bit of tech detox.
3. Come back with fresh energy. Now, don’t stop there… a decision break will be valid only when you go back with a fresh perspective. Maybe it is not going to reinvent the wheel, but it will certainly show an unexplored path.

This can make the difference between a rushed choice and a wise one. So, if you ever find yourself in the middle of an endless decision process, a tiring debate or a heating argument, remember: maybe what you need is not more thinking or more talking, but a very good decision break.

The question of decision fatigue

 

A few years ago, a friend of mine went to buy a deodorant. I was with him, but I stayed at the entrance of the supermarket with the person who was hosting us. After twenty minutes, she started to get worried - how long could it take to choose one deodorant? I went to check, and there he was, staring at a small shelf with only a handful of options… Twenty minutes, and still no decision.

Now imagine someone like him, but at the end of a long, exhausting day. They still need to call three people, buy a gift, fill out a work form and complete travel paperwork. Each small choice adds up until the brain feels like it’s running on fumes.

An official report drew my attention: When Good People Make Bad Decisions. Of course, anyone can make a mistake because of ignorance, poor planning or pressure, but sometimes, even very good and competent people make bad decisions due to another factor: decision fatigue.

People who are smart, trained, capable and kind mess up because of being worn out from choosing and deciding, again and again.

This is what psychologists call decision fatigue. As psychotherapist Natacha Duke explains, it isn’t a medical condition but a very real phenomenon: the more decisions you make throughout the day, the more mentally, emotionally and physically drained you become. Decisions are made by the intellect or buddhi (Sanskrit), which is your executive functioning - the part of you that decides, plans and prioritizes. It starts to falter and when that slips, so does a good decision.

That’s why firefighters, pilots and doctors often rely on protocols and checklists, which reduce unnecessary decisions and the energy is saved to be used for the critical ones. Maybe you can create protocols for your own life, suited to your needs, or simply start building habits, simplifying routines and taking “decision breaks” (a period of reflection, disconnecting from demanding circumstances, meditation). It will make a big difference.

And maybe, there’s also a more spiritual side to this. Not every decision has to be wrestled with logic. Some choices get lighter when we pause, breathe, meditate and connect with a deeper sense of clarity. Better decisions come from a calmer place.

So, the next time you’re standing in front of a shelf - whether of deodorants or crucial life choices - remember: sometimes the smartest move is to step back, clear your mind and only then, make a good decision.

Why do we think too much?

A short video I saw many years ago was a pony trying to leave its stable… Hesitation, a bit of fear and FINALLY, after a few anguished moments, it steps out of it. All because of a small step on its way. The theme the person who posted it was OVERTHINKING.

And that may be a problem for ponies, I am not sure, but it is for sure a HUGE problem for everyone.

• We need to take a step, but… can we really do it? Is it safe? What about the safe place I am living right now, it is not that bad, you know? I think this is the wrong direction…
• Or, we need to take a jump, we need a big change to take place in our lives. No, I cannot do this! I am not prepared! My (wife, husband, friend, brother…) told me I wouldn’t be able to do it… It is too much, let me wait a little bit more…
• Furthermore, we maybe need a breakthrough. I prefer to stay where I am, it is not so good, but not too bad either. It is too risky!

Overthinking may be everywhere and I am sure, right now, you are overthinking about something…

Or maybe, I am overthinking about you…

There is not one solution, but a few things you can do:

• If you know you will need something, prepare yourself beforehand.
• If the change is small (a step), choose the best moment to do it. Some will prefer to be surrounded by close friends, others by themselves, the important thing is that YOU TAKE THAT STEP.
• If the change is big (a jump), you need to reflect and contemplate on it, but don’t overcook your decision or as some people say, don’t get paralyzed by the analysis. Probably the best thing is to get help from someone in terms of guidance, resources or a good chat.
• Now, if the change is a transformation, you do need help if that generates storms of thoughts in your mind. Perhaps, ask around to see who has gone through a type of change like that; probably it will different, but there are some lessons you can learn.

I hope that will be helpful.

Was it helpful? Are you sure? I don’t know I think I missed something……..

 

Just kidding! Take care!