A safe space for you

A friend of mine insists that what everyone really needs is a safe space… A place in which there is no danger or threat, with a feeling of being accepted, no matter what or who we are.

Is that even possible? Yes, it is… At least I think so…

Here are the essentials for you to build a safe space:

·       A good positive attitude, that is the most important thing you will need.

·       People who are good to you, who care about you and you care about them.

·       People who… well, not necessarily care about you, but you need them and you can have a dialogue with them.

·       A nice space… It is personal, but you can add some art, music, lots of nature, light…

·       Meditate in this space regularly, so that you create a whole new atmosphere.

·       Don’t talk about this space to other people… keep it as a beautiful secret.

·       Don’t keep things that disturb you, even though they may be necessary.

·       If there are things you need, but they upset you, take them when it is necessary and take them out after that.

·       If you can’t have a proper physical place, even a beautiful park can work…

By creating and sustaining a safe space, benefit will come not only for you, but for many others too. 

Your thoughts change the atmosphere - Reason 52

Normal people complain.  A lot.  There are complaints about anything and everything: it is part of everyday life.  In fact, most people expect to get together with others to complain and generally to talk about bad things.  It seems people enjoy the problems and turmoil happening with other people and in the world, more than the solutions and positive aspects happening around.

On the contrary, leaders make their best effort to think well, speak with refinement and act better, because by doing this a leader feels good and enable others to feel good as well.  This may change the atmosphere around him or her, just like a fan can do wonders during hot weather, a ‘cool’ thought from a leader – let’s say, on peace – may calm others and change the general mood in a room.

It is not the leader does not feel what other people who complain fell, but she or he prefers to connect to the best of the self, which paves the way for positive thoughts.  There is always something good that can help minimise the effect of bad things and instead stimulate solutions, transforming the energy present in the environment.

(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)