The value of trust in a very distrustful world

 

Trust used to be something almost invisible. You would read the news, answer a phone call, meet someone new and there was a natural tendency to believe. Maybe not blindly, but at least enough to build relationships, communities and even daily routines.

Now things feel different.

We double-check messages. We wonder if a photo was edited, if a voice was cloned or a headline was generated just to manipulate us. Deepfakes, scams and fake information are no longer strange exceptions; they have become part of our modern life. And that mistrust is like a ghost in the background.

Slowly, something dangerous happens: distrust stops being protection and becomes a habit. We stop believing in our children, in boss’ argument about our work, in the quality of our relationships…

The problem is that human life cannot function without trust. Every friendship, family bond, team, spiritual path and meaningful conversation depend on some degree of openness toward another person. If you are travelling in your plane you have to trust the person beside you, when you go the supermarket and you trust the factory that produced something good for you… When you vote, choose or make any decision, trust is a key element.

Of course, trust has always carried risks as any person may let us down, systems can fail and promises could be broken. But living in permanent suspicion is something else and it has a cost: when we stop trusting completely, we isolate ourselves emotionally, we become cynical, exhausted. Alone.

I am not suggesting here to trust blindly, but to trust wisely.

Not every voice deserves credibility, not every image deserves belief, not every product in the supermarket was done properly, but not every person deserves suspicion either, and the same applies to the whole society and the structure in which we are living.

Wise trust begins internally by first being honest with ourselves, more stable emotionally and aligned with our own values. In this way, we also become better at sensing authenticity in others, discernment grows and trust is positively affected by that.

And maybe that is how trust will come back to us. I don’t think we can go back to that time we would open the door of our lives to anyone, but, with wisdom, discernment and our own honesty, trust will become part of our background again, and our doors will be open to many.

In a world where almost everything can be fabricated, genuine human sincerity becomes one of the most valuable things we can offer each other.

A quest for a sustainable motivation

 Motivation is good; as human beings, we all need it. Otherwise, even very necessary - and urgent - tasks won’t be performed. But things are more complex nowadays, with the demands of our jobs, family life, spiritual endeavors, and even our health.

So, I would like to explore motivation as a quest, through a few stories.

A close friend once had a very important role during a program for almost 1,000 people. His task was fundamental… yet he was late. We met at a bus stop, and while I was feeling anxious because of the delay, he was completely tranquil. After some time on the bus, we also became calm, influenced by his attitude. Then, suddenly, he started to get agitated. Eventually, he literally ran from the bus towards the auditorium, leaving us stunned. For many, motivation arises at the edge of anxiety; for others, that same edge creates worry. But this type of motivation can also feed the habit of procrastination - and quietly damage productivity.

Someone once changed jobs for a better salary. After a while, something felt missing… Looking for that same sense of drive, he moved again - and then again. Each time, the promise was greater, the reward slightly higher. Until he found himself repeating the same cycle: arriving, adjusting, and soon after, searching again. Material motivation - money, possessions - works well, but it carries a subtle side effect: satisfaction is short-lived, and sometimes it even deepens dissatisfaction.

A person had always dreamed of a house in the countryside, and one day, she made it happen. So much happiness. But slowly, the silence became heavy. Loneliness appeared, as it often does in rural areas. At some point, fear crept in. And when anxiety took over, clarity disappeared. She couldn’t find a way forward and drifted into despair. Even the most beautiful dream can turn into a nightmare. First, work on it, shape it, prepare for it and only then… live it.

I met her many years ago. She was young, vibrant, full of life. Then illness came - a deteriorating condition that changed everything. It was hard, painful, and at times heartbreaking. But something shifted. Over time, she learned not only to cope, but to transform that experience. She wrote a book in Spanish, The Healing Energy of Sickness, and began to share a different perspective: that even illness can become a source of growth. Today, she spreads hope - a hope born from a motivation she never expected. Motivation comes from how we perceive reality. Even the most difficult situations can become a source of strength.

There are people who naturally motivate others, and others who don’t. I know someone whose presence feels… wholesome. Being around him is both a pleasure and an honor. He doesn’t push; he invites. He inspires people to look within and discover their own potential - not just what they can do, but who they can be. And perhaps most importantly, when he leaves, something remains. True motivators are measured by the lasting effect they have on others.

And then, there is another path. I’ve faced many obstacles in my life - moments when I almost gave up. But I kept returning: making effort, meditating, studying, refining my attention. At some point, something became clear. I realized that I could become my own source of motivation. Since then, I’ve tried to sustain that awareness. In such a complex world, self-motivation carries a quiet strength - but only when it comes from self-leadership, particularly self-control and self-empowerment.

Motivation is not a single moment; it is a continuous process. And perhaps understanding this… allows us to remain, more often, in a state of quiet satisfaction.

Trust… traps and boosts

 

Trust used to be something almost invisible: a quiet agreement between people, a sense that what you see is what is.

Today, that simplicity is gone.

We live in a time of artificial intelligence, manipulated realities, fake news, deep fakes and information that looks real, so real… and it isn’t. Trust is no longer just a feeling, it asks for discernment, presence and a different kind of intelligence.

And yet, even in this landscape, the need to trust has not diminished. If anything, it has become more essential. Because without trust, everything collapses into suspicion… and living in constant doubt is exhausting.

I remember a simple exercise I used to do with teams. One person would stand, close their eyes and fall backwards; the team would catch them. Nothing sophisticated, no technology, just people looking for something meaningful.

But what happened at that moment was powerful. The person falling had to let go and at the same time, others had to be fully present. Trust was not a concept - it was an experience.

And that is something we are slowly losing: the experience of trust. We may talk about it, question it … but we don’t always practice it. So, let’s practice…

But, yes, trust also has its traps and those are reasons for which many people avoid trusting.

Being naïve is one of them. Confusing trust with blind acceptance or assuming that because something feels right, it is right. Let’s not forget overconfidence and trusting excessively in systems, in roles, in titles, or even in our own judgment without questioning.

There is also the subtle trap of believing in someone simply because of their experience, trajectory or reputation, as if the past could fully guarantee the present.

Then, on the other side, there is the inability to trust, because past experiences closed the door and disappointment becomes a filter. For protection, we turn away from others and live in our little castle, cove or cave.

Trust moves in this delicate space between openness and discernment, letting go and staying aware. When it is healthy, trust does something very specific: it creates a sense of inner safety. Not because everything is certain, but because there is a willingness to engage with life even during uncertainty.

There is a feeling of being supported… by others, by processes, sometimes even by something deeper, which cannot be fully explained.

And maybe that is the real shift required today: to stop seeing trust as something we either give or withdraw… and start seeing it as something we cultivate.

Not blindly, not rigidly.

Consciously, trusting with eyes open, with full awareness. Trusting not because the world is perfectly reliable, but because we are creating it, at every moment.

Nobody is to blame…

 

I would like to use this post not so much to explore the topic of guilt, but to give you ideas, so you can explore it yourself.

• Ask yourself: what is the difference between being guilty and responsible?
• When a person is guilty, go to jail, physical or in the public opinion, while a responsible person looks for correcting, amending and overcoming the error.
• When I blame myself, I send myself to a jail in the depth of my mind… No escape!
• When I blame others, I send them to a jail in my mind… They will always be there!
• By blaming others, I am disempowering myself; they are the ones who did it, but I am the one to live with the consequences.
• Blame and guilt are all shields that try to protect us from getting hurt.
• Instead of blaming yourself, change.
• Instead of blaming someone, empower yourself.
• Honesty and truth are the greatest weapons against blaming someone.
• Find protection within you, by using your resilience.
• Find protection in God, by meditating.
• Find protection in others, by talking and having a dialogue.
• Why did this really go bad? An honest answer will help you healing.
• Healing is part of overcoming any sense of blame.
• Mercy is part of overcoming other people’s part in the problem.
• Understanding gives us the full picture, so that we can find solutions, instead of blaming.
• Solutions may not come, but by focusing on them, you will change.
• Forgiveness… it is more beneficial for you than others.
• Forgiveness… opens doors to healing.

To listen, a transformative force

 

It is not something we naturally learn, and yet listening may be one of the most valuable soft skills we can develop.

Think about its practical impact.

• Parenting. Instead of speaking, correcting or trying to explain everything, experiment with listening to your children. Much of what they say may seem irrelevant… but in between, there is a treasure. By listening, you begin to understand who they are, beyond their behavior.
• Therapy and crisis. Few things are as powerful as offering someone the space to be heard, to listen without interrupting, rushing to fix or the need to conclude. Sometimes, what the other person truly needs is not advice, but relief - the simple act of emptying the heart.
• Friendship. Listening strengthens bonds. With friends, neighbors or colleagues, it is not about remaining silent all the time, but about sensing the right moment to speak or to be quiet, a balance that creates trust.
• Reflection. There is also someone essential to listen to: yourself. Through meditation, journaling or quiet pauses, an inner dialogue emerges. Learning to listen to that soundless voice is one of the most meaningful acts of personal development.

Listening, is not passive. It is an active, intentional act of presence. To listen deeply is to give attention without interference. It is to reduce the inner commentary that constantly wants to interpret, judge or respond.

Many times, while someone is speaking, the mind is already preparing an answer, agreeing, disagreeing or drifting away. To listen is to control the mind and focus.

But as in anything, there are aspects that should be avoided; we may call them subtle traps: interrupting internally, evaluating too quickly, filtering everything through personal opinions, being emotionally affected, being exploited by the speaker and by having your own voice denied.

Real listening requires a certain humility, a willingness to pause and truly embrace the other with your heart. Add a high self-esteem that will keep equilibrium internally.

And if you need another point to develop this soft skill, what about this: by listening more, concentration naturally improves and attention becomes sharper. These byproducts will influence other areas of life making your conversations richer, relationships more genuine and a clarity about your personal purpose.

This is why listening can be transformative; not because it changes others, but because it changes the quality of your own life.

You are different than the rest of your team; what to do?

 

A team can look like many things: a group of colleagues working toward a goal, a family sharing a home, a community gathering around a belief or a purpose. In all cases, a team is not defined by similarity, but by coexistence and a common goal.

And that’s where challenges come up.

Focusing on coexistence, at some point, you may realize you think differently, act in a unique way or even value things that others don’t. Maybe you are more reflexive in a fast-paced group or more expressive in a quiet environment. Perhaps your priorities don’t quite match the collective rhythm.

The first instinct is often resistance (I am different, nobody can tell me what to do) or expectation (They should understand me, they should adapt) .

But reality is simpler: you cannot shape a whole group around you. What you can do, however, is something more powerful.

You can learn to adapt without losing yourself. Adapting is not betraying who you are, in fact it is choosing how to express who you are in a way that others can perceive in a positive way. It is intelligence, not submission. It is awareness, not weakness.

I know we all want to be accepted as we are, but let’s understand this: there is a subtle but important difference between being accepted and adapting. While acceptance comes from others, adaptation comes from you.

If you wait to be accepted as you are, particularly when, for that reason, you are unable to participate fully in the team, you may be resented or avoided by others.

On the other hand, if you adapt by observing, understanding the dynamics, respecting the space and adjusting your approach, you may create the right conditions for acceptance to naturally grow.

A team doesn’t need you to be the same as they are as individuals. In fact teams enrich from people’s individuality and particular specialties, but they do need your participation and commitment.

The bridge between being different and belonging does not start from others’ side; it often starts from your willingness to take the first step.

The Power of Asking the Right Questions

 

During my coaching certification, one concept was permanently imprinted on my mind: I have to find the right question.

Logic usually points us in the opposite direction. We are taught from a young age that the goal is to find the right answer. But I want to defend the "right question." Here’s why:

• Answers are now a commodity. We live in a sophisticated era in which answers to almost anything is available at our fingertips in seconds - a reality our ancestors couldn't have imagined.
• Easy answers kill the dynamic. Because they are so easy to get, their value has diminished. They don't incite conversation anymore. I remember a TV show, where a group of friends had a heated, friendly debate about the most popular food. Years later, that same group would have just pulled out their smartphones and received a cold, unenthusiastic answer from the internet: Bread! It’s efficient, but cheap, ending the moment rather than starting one.
• We must trade "cheap" for "deep." Since answers are cheap, we must improve our questions. This isn't about using "big" words or complex grammar; it’s about depth and meaning.
• The quest over the destination. Questions are deep when they are sincere. They come from a quiet place inside us, asked not to find a single "correct" response, but to stimulate a quest. Think of the classic: Who am I?
• Meaning drives growth. A meaningful question contributes to self-development or helps us deconstruct an obstacle. It forces the person to explore a landscape of possible solutions rather than a single exit.
• The mark of a "right question." A right question might be simple in its construction, but it lacks a direct answer. It isn't a "yes or no" thing; it requires elaboration, reflection, and deep thinking.

In a world obsessed with the destination of a “result”, let’s rediscover the beauty of the journey. Let’s stop settling for “bread” and start hungry conversations that lead us to places an algorithm would never find.

The end… or the beginning

 

Once, I left work as usual and went to catch the bus home. I used to work in a very nice and pleasant place, but something surprised me: there was a crowd at the bus stop. On the ground, a person's body, covered with a white sheet.

It seemed bizarre. If it were today, I would undoubtedly think it was some influencer filming something or, perhaps, a soap opera. But, as fate would have it, the bus was late that day, and for more than 30 minutes I stood there observing the scene.

Death, the end of a person who finished their life in a public space, in a time without cell phones to call someone…

Life, the energy of the people surrounding them; anyone observing from a distance - even myself - would think it was some kind of party. And it made me think about how we look at death, so ugly and frightening, so much fear… Yet, death is the end of a life fully lived. Perhaps the person didn't have time to go to college or retire, maybe they couldn't say goodbye or return what the neighbor had lent them. But it was their complete experience.

We will all leave in the middle of something… we will all leave something unfinished. But all of us, absolutely all of us, will leave when our life's journey ends.

That will be the extent of our contribution to others, our city, our country, the world.

That will be the point of personal enrichment from having been in contact with so many people, from having lived in such places.

 

Death is simply a process of conclusion. It is the awarding of a certificate, the diploma we receive for having lived. Death is, in a way, the celebration of a life.

Therefore, celebrate your life, and when you depart, you will feel that it was worthwhile.

Do you trust the way you deal with things?

 

I was thinking recently about how we manage our own life - not in big philosophical terms, but in very simple things. Objects. Meetings. Walking around the block.

And I’ve noticed something: things have become… a bit more complicated.

Since COVID, my way of managing time has slowly worsened. It used to feel almost natural, almost precise. Now it feels heavier, fragmented. And I don’t think I’m the only one. Many people seem to be struggling with how to handle their own “stuff”.

In my case, just after or during the pandemic, I created new routines, new activities, new ways of using my time. It made sense then. But now, with in-person life fully back, everything is overlapping. What worked before is now creating friction.

Maybe each person has a different version of this story. But the feeling is similar: something in the way we manage our lives needs an update.

And here is the interesting part.

We don’t just manage things - we develop a way of managing them. Almost like a personal operating system: you learn it, you refine it and without noticing… it becomes a habit.

Like someone who walks their dogs always the same way, at the same hour, with the same route. It works. Until one day, it doesn’t. The dogs change, the environment changes or simply life asks for a different rhythm.

And yet, we tend to keep doing the same, ignoring the signs, avoiding to face the new reality or because we don’t know what to do.

Reality, however, doesn’t wait. Technology shifts, social dynamics evolve, and health, priorities, even our inner motivations… they all move. Quietly, but constantly.

And suddenly, the way we used to manage life starts to feel outdated.

Maybe changing how we deal with things is harder than dealing with the things themselves.

One option is to tighten control. To micromanage and try to fix everything by paying attention to every small detail gives an interesting sensation. And, paradoxically, this often makes things feel even more overwhelming - as if life had become a collection of tiny, urgent fragments. Emails, for example…

Another option is more subtle and perhaps more challenging: to shift from management to leadership. Management is about handling tasks. Leadership is about setting direction.

When we trust our direction, we don’t need to control every step and we may be allowed some margin. We can make mistakes, we fail or we forget doing something... And we flow, fixing what is needed, changing what is required and enjoying life much more.

Of course, trusting the process doesn’t mean being careless, but to recognize that not everything needs to be tightly held in order to work.

What really needs to change is not the number of things… but the person who is trying to hold them all together. Me, you…

And that change, although uncomfortable, might be exactly what brings things back into balance.

Discovering your inner peace

 

Go within…

There, inside your mind, there is so much peace in there. Experience it…

For a moment, leave aside everything you are doing and just merge yourself into that experience… Can you feel it?

It is not as difficult as people say.

It is not as easy as people say.

It is an effort of concentration and detachment, but without pain or suffering.

The beauty of finding your inner peace is that, it will always be there. Whenever you need it, it is there…

Try it out, find it and keep it in your mind. Use it when there is a need.

If things don’t go as planned…

 

Almost two hundred people I know had their flights cancelled or postponed, due to the war. I saw in their faces that mixture of powerlessness and silent anxiety.

I was in India recently, and those scenes stayed with me. They left me with a question that feels more relevant than ever: How do you plan your life in a world that refuses to be predictable?

Because let’s be honest… we love plans (at least, I love them). They give us a sense of control, direction, even identity. But life, every now and then, reminds us - gently or abruptly - that control is often an illusion.

My reflection is about what to do when things become unclear.

Our first instinct is usually to do more things: think more, calculate more, try to fix things faster. We check our resources - time, money, skills – and we try to increase them, save them.

Of course, all of this is important, but what I saw there was that it is simply not enough. There were people who were glued to an app, trying to find a way out, or those who could buy a new ticket just like that; still, there was no response, no ticket…

Situation sometimes are bigger than our tools and resources, our capacity. It results into an inner pressure, so we try and force solutions, pushing our way through.

There is however, one thing that was useful. In many faces, I saw plenty of smiles and calm, a fresh sensation that said things will be OK. That is the one possibility I saw that was the most successful: resilience.

It is an inner strength and quietly steps in, not as a dramatic force, but as a deeper power. It helps us adapt and, instead of denying the horrible reality, we learn from it and move on.

So, how do we plan when certainty is not available? I don’t think the answer is to stop planning… but let’s plan differently:

• Avoid rigid expectations. Plans are useful, but expectations can turn into traps. Hold things with openness.
• Plan for the best, prepare for the worst. Not from fear, but from maturity. It creates inner stability.
• Think beyond “Plan B”. Sometimes even alternatives fail. Go further - visualize yourself after the situation. How do you want to feel when this is over?
• Stay calm, wherever you are. Calmness is not a luxury; it is a tool to be used in these cases.
• Look for help… in the right place. Not all advice is helpful and not all voices bring clarity. Choose wisely.
• Accept what you cannot control. Not as resignation, but from resilience. Save energy and use that strength in dealing with this reality.
• Stay focused. When the outside is shaking, the inside must be steady. That’s where a real direction comes from, a possible solution.

The Superhero of Your Life

 

When you hear the word superhero, what comes to mind? A cape, a mask, someone flying across the sky to rescue the world at the last second. We usually imagine strength, spectacle, something extraordinary and almost unreachable.

But if you pause for a moment and look carefully at your own story, you may discover something surprising: you have already met your superhero. In fact, you have probably met more than one of them.

In my experience, everyone has someone who saved them at some point. Not necessarily in a dramatic, life-or-death scene, but in quieter, more human ways.

Someone saved your job when they defended you in a meeting or another person saved your grades when they stayed after class to explain what you didn’t understand. There is that person who saved your marriage by offering perspective at the right moment or saved your confidence when you were about to give up on yourself.

And sometimes, yes, someone truly saved your life. It might have been a teacher who believed in you when nobody else did, a friend who answered the phone at two in the morning and simply listened, a colleague who stood by you when it was uncomfortable to do so or a stranger who spoke one sentence that changed the direction of your thinking. Those moments may look small from the outside, but in the context of a person’s life, they can be decisive.

Although psychology and resilience research remind us that timely support and simple acts of encouragement can have long-term effects on a person’s growth, we often underestimate how powerful it is to be present for someone at a critical moment.

We have all superheroes and the point, however, is not to worship them. It is not about building statues in our minds. It is about learning and cultivating whatever they did to us. It's about telling their stories, keeping their memories, and understanding that, at the end of the day, even superheroes fall sometimes, and you can be the legacy that will make them rise again.

Some of my own superheroes are no longer alive, and yet they continue to teach me through their words, their example and the way they faced adversity. When I remember how they handled pressure, disappointment, critical situations or injustice, I find guidance for my own challenges. Their physical presence may be gone, but their influence is still active.

I invite you to ask yourself a few questions:

• Who believed in me when I doubted myself?
• Who challenged me instead of just comforting me, helping to get out of my comfort zone?
• Who stayed by my side when it would have been easier to walk away?

Your superheroes are not outside your story - they are woven into it. Many times, in strange ways…

A harsh correction, a painful disagreement, even an unfair criticism can become the spark that pushes us to grow. There is a concept often discussed in psychology called adversarial growth: the idea that opposition and difficulty can strengthen us more than comfort ever could. None of my superheroes ever wore a cape, but in this case, not even a friendly face.

They did not applaud us, instead they confronted us. They questioned us and they exposed our weaknesses. At the time, we may have labeled them as enemies, we may even cry or run away.

And yet, because of them, we became better. They saved us in a very strange way, just like some superheroes from comics look like bad people.

One more layer to this reflection: even if someone extended their hand, you were the one who decided to hold it. Even if someone opened a door, you were the one who chose to walk through it. Even if someone offered guidance, you were the one who applied it. Help can be offered, but transformation is always a decision.

In the end, the greatest superhero of your life has always been you. Not because you never needed anyone, but because you accepted help when it came and you allowed yourself to learn. You transformed pain into maturity and support into strength, you stood up, you continued, you chose to grow.

Maybe today is a good day to remember the people who helped you rise with a smiling face or not. It is a beautiful day that you are your own hero too and celebrate it.

And maybe it is also a good day to recognize that somewhere, in someone else’s story, you are the superhero they quietly thank in their heart.

Are challenges a curse?

 

I have faced so many challenges in my life that I could write a book about them… Of course, that would be yet another challenge for me.

Challenges have a strange dual nature: they can be the worst thing that happens to us - or the best.

At their worst, they drain our energy. They interrupt our plans. They reduce our sense of success. They whisper quietly that maybe we are not capable enough. If we label them as a curse, they become heavy and once something feels heavy for long enough, it begins to dishearten us.

But here is the uncomfortable truth: the challenge exists. Whether we complain or deny it, it remains there.

At their best, however, challenges are like test papers. Not punishments - evaluations. They reveal where we are strong and where we are fragile. They stretch our patience. They expand our capacity. They force us to use muscles we didn’t even know we had.

The same event can either shrink us or shape us and the difference is not the challenge.

It is the meaning we give to it.

If we think challenges are curses, we will slowly lose hope. If we see them as training, we begin to access something deeper - resilience, inner power, creativity, courage.

Perhaps challenges are not against us, but you are the one who can answer this:

Are challenges a curse?

Effects of a Modern Life: Exhaustion

 

I do feel people are too tired… Don’t you think so?

Perhaps the problem is related to health and so the person should go to a doctor and check upon this. Or, maybe the problem is not the lack of rest, but the kind of rest we choose.

While trying to relax, I see friends endlessly scrolling on their phones, watching one episode after another, jumping from one video to the next, trying to “disconnect” from their source of stress and to feel good. And yet… they are exhausted.

It’s a strange paradox of modern life. We have more entertainment than any generation before us. More comfort, more technology, more “free time” and more possibilities to make our lives easier. And still, many of us wake up tired, go to bed exhausted and live drained of energy.

We are confusing distraction with restoration, boredom with silence, doing nothing with slowing down, and this is why, we keep feeding the mind with noise.

Another invisible factor is the pressure to always be “on”. We have reached a level in terms of society that many people feel obliged to be productive or available, 24/7. We jump every time a notification beeps, vibrates or screams…

Relaxation is competing with that sense of success we have created and cultivated along many years. We HAVE TO BE BUSY, we HAVE TO WORK LONG HOURS, we HAVE TO SEND OUR CHILDREN TO THE BEST COLLEGES, and so on… Look, this is not bad, but partial success does not work well. Imagine you have a fruit, a whole fruit, but you eat just half of it and you miss the best part. Success is not only achievements and attainments, it is also that incredible sensation of victory, an elated stage in our minds and an eternal smile…

The third thing that is making us more and more tired is virtual-based relationships. I do remember at the end of every year, I used to call EVERYONE in my cell phone; now, with more than 1,000 numbers in my phone, I would have to start wishing everyone a “Merry Christmas and Happy New Year” from January!

And let’s not talk about the endless number of photos and videos, audios and things that, in the past, meant there was a meaningful relationship, and now it just occupies space in the cell phone memory. A virtual-based relationship makes us tired instead of enriching each other.

Real rest is not an escape. It means stillness and it is conscious, rather than just trying to forget. It is not travelling, but deepening. It is not scrolling eternally in your phone, looking for something; instead, take whatever is there in front of you and make it a beautiful entertainment moment.

It may be uncomfortable at first as it requires us to face silence and be alone with our thoughts. Real rest comes from a powerful reflection on what we have been avoiding and stopping us to escape from our reality.

Yes, meditation and a change of lifestyle will help. Definitely, power naps and a sound sleep will work wonders.

My suggestion here is that you start from your awareness, letting go other ways of resting that ends to make us even more tired and embracing new possibilities. You will see the results I am sure of that.

A safe space for you

A friend of mine insists that what everyone really needs is a safe space… A place in which there is no danger or threat, with a feeling of being accepted, no matter what or who we are.

Is that even possible? Yes, it is… At least I think so…

Here are the essentials for you to build a safe space:

·       A good positive attitude, that is the most important thing you will need.

·       People who are good to you, who care about you and you care about them.

·       People who… well, not necessarily care about you, but you need them and you can have a dialogue with them.

·       A nice space… It is personal, but you can add some art, music, lots of nature, light…

·       Meditate in this space regularly, so that you create a whole new atmosphere.

·       Don’t talk about this space to other people… keep it as a beautiful secret.

·       Don’t keep things that disturb you, even though they may be necessary.

·       If there are things you need, but they upset you, take them when it is necessary and take them out after that.

·       If you can’t have a proper physical place, even a beautiful park can work…

By creating and sustaining a safe space, benefit will come not only for you, but for many others too.