Changing things is not easy. Changing people is very difficult. Changing yourself…
Well, probably that is
not easy either, but it is what you can do as you always have the possibility
of changing the self.
And there is a little
magic trick I can share with you: when you change yourself, particularly when
you change your mindset, things change… OK, they don’t necessarily change, but
let’s see an example.
You have a very
difficult boss, one of the worse you have ever had! You are often arguing with
them and you feel they don’t allow you to grow. You like the present workplace
and position you have, salary is good, nice people…
So… if you would try
to change your boss, what would it happen? Probably nothing, they maybe scold
you for trying such a thing, even fire you.
Another option… you
may try to change your job. However, besides it is hard to do in the present
circumstances, are you sure you are going to have a better boss? No certainty
here, right?
Let’s try a bit of
magic! Start looking for good things about your boss: they are very well
educated, in fact, their curriculum is really impressive, they connect very
well with customers and they are a good family person (which is something
important for you).
The problems you are
having with him are not going away because of that, but they refer to your
development and the way things work.
By changing your
mindset, you ask yourself: Why don’t I help them to find a new job instead of
fighting them? After a few hours browsing, you prepare a list of possible
options, a very good profile for your boss and you send to as many companies as
possible. After two months, old boss goes (for a very good position) and a new
boss comes! Hope is back!
Other magic tricks
that would be available in this case: you could go through training and get a
better position in the same company and you could apply for another branch of
the same company.
Check your problems
and use this magic wand to solve them. Magic is available to all of us and the
method is the same: instead of trying to change outside, reflect, see which
changes you can do within and then implement.