Sunday, December 31, 2017

Our story…

If three people would meet today, each one could have their own story.

The first would share about separation and the pain another caused. But they would also share about their conquests: a new job, a new place to live, a new hope in life…
The second would share about their illness, a sickness that is preventing them to live life fully. And yet, there is a project of writing a new book and share with other people the art of meditation.
The third would be quiet, overwhelmed by memories of what happened during this year that is about to end… So many bad things, so many good things…

When they separated, the first one would have left with new projects in their life, thinking on how to make that happen. The New Year turns into a wonderful opportunity.
The second one would leave quietly, merged in a healing silence, doing the balance of the year that is finishing. The New Year is the chance to increase possibilities.
The third one would regret not having told others about their own newness, so immediately they would start to write to the others about it. The New Year is a blank page where to design their life.

As humans, today is a crossover between ages and eras, at a threshold of a new year, a new world. Today, it is a time of checking and planning, changing and dreaming, to discover more about others and themselves. May we always remember the lessons and keep on dreaming…


A very happy new year for you!

Sunday, December 24, 2017

Just look at the stars…

Stars shine no matter if you are sad or happy, whether you are looking at them or not.
They have been shining over wonderful events, celebrating human conquests, but they have also been present when civilizations went down and tragedy stroke mercilessly.
Even when dark and dense clouds try and block stars, they are still shining… And if there are so many other lights in the city and you can’t see the starts, well, those lights will cease to exist at some point, but the starts will go on and on.

They could be a wonderful analogy for hope or courage, for any human virtue that helps us to face the impossible and remain standing before it, ready to move on and move forward.
It could be a metaphor of the human spirit itself, on how many times it kindles and flickers, how many times illuminates and fades, just to reignites again.

As humans, we are stars that never die away and even when we are unhappy, going through misery, we are still shining…

Sometimes, dark clouds come on our way, blocking our vision and preventing us to see a brighter future; and yet, we shine…
Sometimes, others’ gleam dulls our best effort to be important, and yet, we shine…

Just look at ourselves… Just look at yourself!  You are the brightest star of Christmas…


Merry Christmas to you!

Sunday, December 17, 2017

You are the source of harmony - Reason 24

We live together and we flourish as a worldwide big team, because we are human beings and it is in our nature.  Still, things don’t work always as we would like, because, among other reasons, we are so different from each other.

The pursuit of harmony is common nowadays, maybe motivated by the number of interpersonal conflicts.  For that reason, companies hire coaches and consultants to help their teams to work well together, mediators go from country to country to help solve issues and you sit down from time to time to wonder what to do about your own relationships.

It is easier for leaders as they always think of themselves as the ones to generate harmony.  They won’t look for it from others, nor will they wait for others to change, but they will provide that energy from their own actions, attitude and awareness.  To be part of the inner circle of a leader is an opportunity to feel harmony in practical life.


Harmony is something exquisite, because it is based on the truth, peace and mutual good wishes and it can be a healing experience for an entire group.  Where harmony prevails as the constant backdrop for any resolution of momentary conflict, it will be just like a modern piece of art: challenging and beautiful at the same time.


(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)

Sunday, December 10, 2017

Each day is a new chapter of your life - Reason 23

If your life was a book, what would be the title?  This is a deep reflection each one of us should do from time to time.  The secret behind it is that whatever is the book’s chosen title, so also will be the experience that day.

For leaders, that reflection takes place naturally and it helps to focus.  Energy and resources will be harnessed meaningfully. 

The best leadership does not stop with the choice of book title.  Where there is the mindset that every day is a new chapter with its own beginning, middle and end, an active leader starts renewed and fresh every day.

This is the richness of being a leader, where every day contributes in an important way to growth.


So, for a leader instead of asking the title of their life’s book, an even better question is: What is the title of the new chapter I am starting today?


(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)

Sunday, December 3, 2017

You will develop the full potential of your intelligence - Reason 22

By observation, there are three main components that compose what normally we define as intelligence: memory, synthesis and analysis.  That is, a very intelligent person will have an incredible memory, he or she will be able to gather information and give a meaning and context to it.

There is no scientific consensus on how to develop intelligence, but it is observed that mental exercise and stimulation coming from the need of the moment encourage this.  The point is you can develop intelligence, as much as you want, although for a normal person that is crushed by routine and a life without creativity.

It is not about the intelligence borne out of schooling, but that capacity we all have as humans to figure out our way in this world.

A leader will quickly gather all information needed, reflect, reach a conclusion and then act.  This encourages creativity whilst at the same time provides structure and focus so that everyone’s energy is best directed.


Over and above, a leader will be able to reach a point where solutions can be found and it will serve as lessons to learn and as a means of self-motivation.


(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)

Sunday, November 26, 2017

It is easier to discern the best paths to follow in the journey of life - Reason 21

In an old Colombian song, Los Caminos de la Vida, the author describes how the paths of life are difficult to walk[1].  For many people, life can be one big mystery, and sometimes even an experience of constant misery.

However, a leader is clear that her or his life is the fruit of their own decisions, and is not based on others’ choices or on fate.  Yes, decisions made by others may influence them and circumstances will have an impact, but he or she ultimately will follow the path that comes from their own inspiration.

The leader’s ‘trick’, if we can call it that, is to take time to reflect and to discern before making a commitment in any direction.  Discernment is an ability that allows a person to choose and to prioritise the best possible options before taking any action.

For a leader the importance of discernment is multiplied by the fact that any decision also will impact on the lives of others.  In the absence of proper discernment, life would be just a guess-work . . . 



(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)


[1] Los Caminos de la Vida (The paths of Life) is a song by Omar Geles, about the difficulty of facing a life for one isn’t prepared.  The rhythm is called Vallenato and it is typical of the Eastern Atlantic of Colombia.  You can watch its performance here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5L9itEadUCE


Sunday, November 19, 2017

Live a life with 100% challenges and 0% problems - Reason 20

Do you have a problem?  If you are a leader then that is excellent…

You see, a leader is basically a problem solver, but in an uncomplicated way since he or she never considers a problem as, well, a problem!  For a leader, it translates into challenges.

After all, if you solve a problem, that means you are still at school, but when you overcome a challenge, it means now you are a grown-up.

It is not just a question of word choice, and many leaders like to use the word problem, but the attitude defines how that leader will deal with the circumstances.  While a problem causes fear and worry, lots of stress and confusion, a challenge stimulates and inspires the best to emerge.

Leaders keep a big smile, as challenges come to oppose them and to encourage them to grow.


(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)

Sunday, November 12, 2017

Adverse situations can be faced with internal stability, and a touch of humour - Reason 19

Do you remember The Lion King[1]?  As an animated movie, it brought fresh air to an industry and company that really needed it, combining an exceptional blend of humour and tragedy.

A little spoiler alert in case you haven’t watched it!  On the way to become a king, Simba suffered a big tragedy in his life, but the way he deals with it is to just move one and enjoy a free life in jungle.

That is the inspiration part of being a leader in difficult situations: nothing is too bad so that your mood goes off.  But the leader’s wit comes from a deep sense of stability, not from carelessness or worse, by feeling disheartened.

Nobody is really invincible and yet, when you are a leader, even your worst defeat turns into an occasion for reflection and self-progress.  Maybe it is the fact that a person who takes on a leadership mind-set will have truth by his or her side, or maybe it is the wisdom a leader builds along a life’s journey…  Whatever it is, obstacles in front of a leader become part of that journey’s landscape.

Isn’t it good to be a leader?  A leader is merged in a lead role of a hero movie and you just know the end will be brilliant!


(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)




[1] The Lion King was produced by Walt Disney Feature Animation in 1994.  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Lion_King

Sunday, November 5, 2017

A failure will turn into an opportunity - Reason 18

Who likes a failure?  Very few people, if there is even one, because it is not only the moment a failure happens, but it is possible the impact stays with the person for some time, affecting life in general.

But, if you are a leader, a failure is seen as a wonderful chance to do the same in a different way, or taken as a good signal to change what you do.

Failure activates an ambiguous response from any person.  On one hand, this individual just wants to crawl under some rock and hope people will forget he or she even exists.  It is like sensing a knot in the stomach, but the person knows thata won’t stop so soon, as there are consequences to be faced too.

On the other hand, a boost of energy comes, trying to find a solution and a way out of this situation.  It is at that moment that being a leader is an advantage: by using true leadership qualities, she or he is able to calm down and to focus on the new possibilities ahead.


Failure turns into an opportunity, a moment when a leader discovers something great about the self.

(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)

Sunday, October 29, 2017

Your talents will be unlimited - Reason 17

Although skills are learned, they originate from very deep within the soul in the form of natural talent.  The arousal of latent talent is like the expression of a calling.

An ordinary person would use skills to attain money, success or fame, but this puts this innate fountain of energy to limited use.  A leader on the other hand uses his or her skills to make a vision coming true.

Just like a Brazilian housemaid [1]whose talent for fashion gave her and her family an opportunity in life or a cook who used his skills to feed homeless people[2], leaders use their talents beyond the ordinary and to create opportunities for others.

It is beautiful, because through their skills, leaders go beyond hammering, painting, cooking, cutting, sewing, typing, programming or writing and so on: they express what lies at the very core of their spirit, those wonderful and powerful qualities, and add to the lives of many others in the process.

(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)




[1] Zica Assis, owner of Beleza Natural. http://www.forbes.com/sites/geristengel/2014/11/05/women-entrepreneurs-who-cure-marketplace-pain-points-scale-big/#74fee2fb5ebe
[2] Narayanan Krishnan, a award-winning chef with a five-star hotel group. http://edition.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/04/01/cnnheroes.krishnan.hunger/

Sunday, October 22, 2017

Leaders bring certainty and, along with it, comfort - Reason 16

We can see how much people feel lost as things change faster than they expect.  For example an article on climate change published on Scientific American has shown that change is much faster than was first projected.  In this article, scientists say we know the direction, but not the rate.[1]

Same is happening with all other types of change: politics, social structure, economic, ideas, dreams and much more.  We know more or less the direction, we know change is taking us into a general direction, but by not knowing its pace, it is possible we reach there with no preparation.

Leaders will allow their vision to guide them and will help give guidance to others too – it is a certainty among the increasing uncertainty that is welcome.  As a leader you can comfort others and encourage them to keep moving on, because you understand change and you are aware of its benefits and how to be ready for them.

In this way, as a leader you are beyond the usual social exchange of just sharing pieces of gossip or discussing match results.  It becomes a chance to support in a holistic way those people who find themselves as victims of fast change.


(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)



[1] Scientific American, November 2012 - https://www2.bc.edu/jeremy-shakun/scientificamerican1112-50.pdf

Sunday, October 15, 2017

Your specialties inspire - Reason 15

All of us are special and we have qualities that are unique in our context.  Those specialties impact our family and friends, our jobs and the contribution we give to the community.  Specialties define us in relation to how others see us and also how we feel about life, and can therefore become valuable components for self-esteem.

A normal person can experience qualities that help harmonise relationships, increase self-esteem and attain some success, but a leader is one whose specialties will motivate others.

Many years ago, I had the chance to be with Dadi Prakashmani, the then Administrative Head of the Brahma Kumaris[1].  We were in a car, without translator; Dadi spoke very little English and I spoke very little Hindi.  This would be a problem for many people trying to communicate, but not for us …

Going beyond words and cultures, she gave me the best leadership seminar and the greatest inspirations ever, all in about an hour.  This is because it came from her own life, and from those specialties that flowed and influenced her words as the powerful leader she was.  In fact, I don’t remember what she said as much as how she said.

By being a leader, a person does not need to talk too much.  Actions and behaviour will do all the speaking, since the leader’s specialties will resonate with the others’ hearts.


(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)




[1] Dadi Prakashmani (c.1920 – 2007) was an Indian woman of Sindhi origin who administered the Brahma Kumaris World Spiritual University from 1969 until the time to her death 38 years later.  The number of students increased from about 3,000 to almost a million during that period.

Sunday, October 8, 2017

You have all resources you need to transform the world - Reason 14

Whilst most people complain about the world, being a leader means to be here to transform the world.

It means being the instigator of change since a leader has all skills he or she needs to change the face of reality.  How does that work?

When a normal person does something, she or he fulfils a certain role and duty.  That gives the person a sense of social belonging, and success comes when whatever this person does is extraordinary or very useful.

A leader will go beyond that as she or he will think of doing it in a different way, and may even change the course of a company or country completely.  There is the classic example in management of Andrew Grove, when he changed INTEL from being a company selling computer memory to a company selling microprocessors[1].  As a normal manager, he wouldn’t do that; on the contrary, he would excel in his tasks and make INTEL an even better memory producing company.  As a leader, he challenged the status quo and changed computer history.

One cannot change the whole world if it doesn’t start with one’s own point of view and life.  As the example above, when a leader changes the world around himself or herself, eventually the whole world changes.

(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)






[1] Andrew Grove (1936 – 2016) was one of the first people to work with INTEL.  This article talks about the book, written by Grove, Only the paranoid survive: How to exploit the Crisis point that challenge every company and career.  https://hbr.org/1996/11/inside-intel

Sunday, October 1, 2017

There is achievement at every step taken - Reason 13

There is no waste in a leader’s life, as he or she takes a step if it is likely to bring some type of benefit.  This is not fuelled by any selfish desire of course, because the concept of leader itself implies service.

If that step takes the leader closer to success, she or he uses that opportunity to help others to reach their own attainments in life.  The leader shares methods and ways that inspire and encourage.  Those other people go on to share the same with others, and so on: a ripple effect.

If that step takes the leader closer to failure … well, that is also good.  Fiasco is a very good teacher and by being a leader, that situation can convert into a rung on the ladder of success.  After all, the only common thing between everyone who has been successful is the experience of failure at some point along the way!


It is good to be a leader who knows how to take something useful every time from every situation, having also the chance to help others in that process.

(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)

Sunday, September 24, 2017

Life becomes a challenging wonderful game - Reason 12

Have you ever been to a game and felt horrible because your team or country was not winning?  And yet, after that, you probably went to ‘celebrate’ anyway, even though it was in a bad mood... 

Just like the people who celebrated victory, your team’s defeat turned into a subject to talk about with friends, so it became a means for enjoying a relationship with others.  Eventually, you forget the loss and start to hope for victory next time.

That is the magic of games: even though you lose, you are still a winner inside.  The reason is the effect games have on people: they enjoy them, but also want to win.  Enjoyment and competition coexist, which allows you to see the loss as something small, something that will make you laugh at some point.

For leaders, life is THE game, and so being a leader is to be enjoying and competing all the time.

(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)

Sunday, September 17, 2017

Tolerance means to give others the best of you - Reason 11

We do live in times of tolerance…  Or rather you could say, in times where there is an increasing need for tolerance.

Reason is simple: we live in a period of growing diversity and, as a society, we are not that ready for it.  Diversity makes people feel insecure, as they tend to label others and protect themselves and those who are equal to them, and it is that insecurity that makes intolerance grow.

Normal people bear with what happens to them; they cope with other people’s ways of being or just go out and sue them.  A leader … well, leaders are different, because their perspective is unique and may be summarised in one word and that is service.

Meister Eckhart said something related to the capacity a leader has to tolerate: Do exactly what you would do if you felt most secure.[1]  It is this deep sense of security a leader has imbibed that enables him or her to deal with situations with a broad mind and perspective.

As a leader, you are able to look at others in a way that sees their highest potential, abilities, and which gives them hope and encourages them, for tolerance is in fact not only to accept others, but to give them the best from your heart.

Maybe you have heard that the best image for tolerance is a tree laden with fruit, which gives away irrespective of people throwing up stones in order for the fruit to fall.  By giving your fruits as a leader, then over time others will become content, and will eventually end any attacks as you have left a beautiful impression on their hearts.

(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)




[1] Meister Eckhart (c.1260 – c.1328) was a German philosopher and theologian.  You can find the whole quote in this page: http://www.quoteland.com/author/Meister-Eckhart-Quotes/1273/

Sunday, September 10, 2017

Values are not just words, they are actions! - Reason 10

Most people use values just as nice words.  It is good to say I am humble, I am gentle, and I am kind; however, by just saying it, there is no impact as they could.

Values are a part of the self, a direct connection with the spiritual core within all of us.  If actions are disconnected to the value, they are not coming from that genuine core; by aligning actions with values, particularly those that accompany a leader in her or his journey towards the future, life recovers its true meaning.


For a leader, values are much more than words and they are present at every step, giving a reason for everything he or she is doing.

(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)

Sunday, September 3, 2017

Pressure is easy to handle - Reason 9

Pressure is increasing, coming from all sides: work, family, mind, desires, aims, co-workers, bosses, community, news, social network, etc.  And it looks scarier day by day with clear consequences to the mental and physical health.

Leadership helps to understand the pressures and create a sustainable strategy to face them instead of avoiding or running away from them.

The fundamental power a leader has is that she or he has chosen everything they live, no matter if they are roses or thorns.  When a leader is living through a rosy period, he or she just enjoy life and that is the time to relax and plan for the future; when the period is thorny, then all that energy a leader has may be used to help her or him to win over and go through any obstacle.

That means you as a leader know the apparent causes for pressure and you can deal with them.  Not only that, but stress won’t come to you while you are managing that burden, or at least, you will be able to manage it and keep it at low levels.


Do you know the reason? Any situation that creates pressure is a game for a leader and a play with many actors and roles.

(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)

Sunday, August 27, 2017

You love your life as it is - Reason 8

We all love our lives, at least at a normal stage when things are working well and those things that are not doing well, they are not severe enough for us to feel too bad.

However, that is not always the case… all humans have to face at least a crisis period in their lives and that is when loving your own life may be a challenge.

As a leader, because of your inner strength, your life is amazing as it is.  The good parts are the roses and the bad parts are the thorns, but who want roses without thorns?  It is not natural, right?

How does a leader do it?  Life has many dimensions, but by taking just one dimension, the spiritual one, a leader will meditate, contemplate or reflect, getting in touch with the inner self in an easy and natural way.  That will naturally influence other dimensions, because real leaders lead from within, all acts and thoughts are aligned and generating change.


It is a change that makes life even more beautiful, even more loveable and colourful.

(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)

Sunday, August 20, 2017

A great life has a basic formula and that is: 100% happiness - Reason 7

Not too easy that you may buy anywhere, but not too difficult that you won’t have ever: happiness.  For people in general, the pursuit of happiness takes a big part of their lives, and yet it is often motivated by the existence of sadness, sorrow or any type of negative state of mind.

Because of that, people often look for happiness from external sources like a good job, an excellent college study or good health.  However, happiness is more a question of perception, attitude and perspective than the situation in itself; this is why you can look behind and see happier days, even though resources were scarce.

For a leader’s point of view, everything gives you happiness or shows you a path towards happiness, no matter the circumstances as he or she bases happiness on an inner state.


That gives leaders strength to change the bad into good, waste into best and a bad reality into a wonderful challenge.  So, she or he does need to go through sadness, as there is always something to be happy about.

(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)

Sunday, August 13, 2017

A leader can always forgive… - Reason 6

It is generally accepted the power of forgiveness:  it heals and it creates an impact on different levels, even on the economy of places torn apart by civil wars or different upheavals[1].

But there are not many people who are able to forgive others.  When they do, they may do it for some people, but not everyone; even then, just some times, not always.  And if you coexist with other people, you probably agree that everyone makes a mistake from time to time and lots of people make mistakes many times…

That is why it is so good to be a leader, as there is the possibility of forgiving everyone as we live in a state of co-dependency, and leaders are a fundamental part of that.

It does not mean that a leader won’t supervise or correct something that is wrong, but his or her heart keeps clean in relation to that person and there will be always another opportunity for the other one.

Maybe It sounds as something impossible or saintly, but it is not like that.  On one hand, there is a practical reason for a leader to forgive and leave the doors open to others: the need of people, good and skilled people, pushes leaders to be pragmatic and invest more of their time and energy in training and education.

On the other hand, by forgiving a person there is an example for others who won’t fear to make mistakes, after all, if you really want to be innovative and do great things, errors are part of the process.


(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)


[1] The Role of Forgiveness in Reconstructing Society After Conflict.  https://sites.tufts.edu/jha/archives/140


Sunday, August 6, 2017

A leader will understand tragedies, by creating an inner change that will transform the world. - Reason 5

Many tragedies happen.  Every day.  With the rise of social media, adding to an already impressive media, calamities come to our home, office and life in general, overflowing our hearts with emotions and sometimes sadness.

As a leader, you won’t find sorrow in this news as they will be a chance for you to check the self and see how you may help.

It is possible to help sending money or food, but at times, help is more subtle: good wishes, good thoughts or good vibrations.

The most important contribution anyone can do is a change in the self.  As a species, we are all interconnected and by provoking a personal change, in a very incognito way, what you are doing is inspiring others to change…


Most of the disasters happening around the world come because of misuse of resources; indirectly, they are made by humans.  A wave of change may help in that, avoiding future disasters or helping people affected right now.

(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)

Sunday, July 30, 2017

Instead of putting up with someone’s behaviour, you are able to tolerate it, which helps him or her to change - Reason 4

One of the big challenges we live in our modern society is diversity.  On one hand, it opens an incredible space for learning and change; on the other hand, humans are not made to live with people who are too different from themselves.

It is a fact everyone likes to live with other people who are equal to them, or at least have some similitude.  When you have to live with people who are too different, well, you just grit your teeth and move on.

As a leader, you don’t do that.  Instead, you use one of the most powerful capacities any leader has: tolerance.

Tolerance is an internal power that enables its owner to live her or his own life as it is, without being disturbed by others’ behaviour.  In fact, a tolerant person gives others a very valuable lesson on how to deal with differences.  And as we know, learning is changing.

Tolerance enables others to change not because they have to, but because the leader is giving so much to them that they feel the need and benefit of changing.  By changing on the basis of tolerance a common and strong ground is built, easing the relationship and helping each other to adapt to the other.

(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)

Sunday, July 23, 2017

Your example convinces others - Reason 3

Convincing others to do something is a big part of doing your job as a manager or being a parent, which is not an easy duty; you don’t have even the option of yelling at them!  Frustrating, right?

It would be if you were not a leader.  But as you are, it is a wonderful challenge you accept from the heart, because there is the understanding that there is no need to convince anybody. Besides, it is a waste of time.

Your way of dealing with others is based on your life and that is your main power: you are an example for others.

Giving example is a task in itself because it does not work automatically.  A model takes time to have the desired effect and the reason is very simple: everyone has their own way of doing things.


So, when people see someone doing the same thing but in a different way, there is a clash between the way I do and the way others do.  A leader solves this conflict by either giving them proof their way is the best, or by being humble enough to accept others’ way.

(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)

Sunday, July 16, 2017

Every day you look at your family and friends from a fresh perspective - Reason 2

People get used to each other and fall very easily into routine.  And as someone once said, routine kills love.

In fact, there is nothing wrong about routine… It’s great!  The problem is the attitude that emerges from activities that don’t require your discernment, intelligence or intuition.  Those three make relationships and your life in general richer, no matter for how long you have been with them.

Your family and friends are extremely important for you.  They create a safe zone where you can make mistakes and learn how to do them right, without serious consequences – in a company, THEY FIRE YOU for the same errors your partner has pointed to you.

As a leader, you see them as more than just people.  They are your day-to-day heroes, rescuing you from stress, horrible decisions to be made and peer-pressure.  This attitude enables the leader to find a new thing about each one everyday, something small or big, full of impact or almost irrelevant, that makes them even more incredible.

In fact, what you are doing is stimulating their leadership since when you look at them like that, the Pygmalion Effect[1] takes place and wonders happen from apparently ordinary people.


(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)




[1] The Pygmalion Effect is an internal process that happens when a person looks at others with a higher vision, provoking an increase on the other person’s performance, results or state of mind.  See more about that here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pygmalion_effect

Sunday, July 9, 2017

When you reflect on a decision before you make it, you then give it power - Reason 1

Normal people go and do whatever they want, and because of that the results are ‘whatever’.

A leader thinks first, then acts.  As a consequence, the action is far more effective and the result will be many times more effective.  The reason is that reflection has the power to turn actions into a magic that makes dreams come true.

Not only that: all actions cause a reaction – a consequence.  This means a person can easily get wrapped up and trapped into a cycle of actions and reactions.  A leader will create a relationship between action and reaction that will be just like a seed and a fruit. 

With awareness a leader realises every performed action is a seed that bears fruit. And that fruit then goes on to produce many more seeds and fruit of the same.  One action will go on to produce not just one result, but will inspire many more actions and results


That action, after reflection, becomes much more than an ordinary action. It is special, valuable and extraordinary, and its creator is that too.

(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)

Sunday, July 2, 2017

Reason Zero… Embrace what you are

Sometime ago, at a church in a small village, a crisis emerged.  It was a small monastery and for many years the priests had been serving that community.  However, slowly people stopped going to church and things had reached an unusual low point where at the last Sunday mass, absolutely NOBODY attended.  It was frustrating for the Dean, the chief of the priests, who that day thought he prepared an especially good sermon!

He began to reflect deeply.  Although some of his colleagues accused other religions, sects and even the television to have stolen the faithful, he did not believe it.  After all, many places were not affected and crowds continued to go there.  Such was the case of a synagogue located in another town.  As it happened, on the Dean’s desk was a leaflet which invited him to attend a lecture by that rabbi, so he decided to go.

When time came, he dressed nicely and went to the venue, which was packed.  He listened attentively to the lecture and even though the Rabbi’s style was different, the Dean couldn’t see much difference in the actual content in the sermon to what he would also use.  Again, the Dean reflected:  Why weren’t people going to the church at the monastery?  He decided to do something that would be hard and very daring, but he was sure it would work.

At the end of the lecture he waited patiently and at last he could talk to the Rabbi.  After introducing himself, he summarised the crisis: low number of people, discouragement and conflict among the priests, bad financial situation, etc.

The Rabbi listened with lots of attention, then looked at him and said: “You know what? I think this situation is not that difficult.  Can I live with you for a while, let’s say, until Saturday?  In this way, I will able to understand what is going on and maybe give some suggestion.”  It had happened that some of the Rabbi’s appointments have been cancelled and he had some time that was now spare.

The Dean accepted the idea and without further discussion, he took the Rabbi to stay with them at the monastery, which had a quite comfortable – and not often used – guests’ room.

It was war!  Or almost … after all, the priests’ view was that their leader had brought a stranger from another religion to their sacred space.  The Dean dedicated himself to the new guest, aware that some of the other priests would speak harsh words.

The Rabbi was a very nice guest, being able to appreciate all he saw.  Every meal he found exquisite and he treated everyone with extreme respect.  The days passed quickly and on the last day, the small community of priests has been won over by the humble rabbi.

When he was about to leave and to return to his city and synagogue, the Dean decided to ask the Rabbi, in front of everyone, his opinion about the present situation regarding lack of church attendance and if he saw a solution for that.

The energy in the room changed and everyone paid rapt attention to the Rabbi’s words.  The man just smiled and said in a very smooth tone: “I didn’t see anything as a reason of the present crisis, really…  But a perception I have had and I must share with you is that I think that one of you is the Messiah.”

It was as if the Rabbi had dropped a bomb, and after he left, everyone went about their duties with that thought in their minds.  Of course, the Dean thought, if that was true it would be Peter, our cook, who is always working hard.  And the leader of the priests had a few ideas on what to do to encourage people to come.  He left and he went to visit some of the members of his congregation.

Peter, the cook, thought it should be James, the gardener.  Those roses are fantastic and he does his work with so much love.  And like a contagion, everyone started to feel someone else was the Messiah.  And that day, the food was really good, the garden was extremely tidy and the Dean came back with a huge smile.  No need to say, Sunday mass was a big success.

On my pathway towards leadership, I found this tale contained many important aspects pertaining to good leadership: the responsibility of putting things right, the initiative to look for the solution and the humility to accept different points of view.  Joel Barker[1] has once said:  A leader is a person you will follow to a place you would not go by yourself.  With his statement, the Rabbi moved those people towards a new place in terms of their attitude.

It is difficult is to be a leader…  This was my realisation a few years ago and so, no wonder many people has given up on the idea of leadership is because it is complicated to find a leader that does what she or he is supposed to do.

On the other hand, I must say there are plenty of little leaders, a term I use with the best of intentions to describe the hundreds or thousands of people who are doing their best and are bringing change in various sectors of our civilisation.  They are moving dozens or hundreds of people towards a new point in their lives, but the impact in the whole of society or at least beyond their reach is little or invisible.

But, instead of complaining about the lack of leaders who create impact and who take people to that place they would not otherwise go, we could refocus and look into a door opened by the lack of leadership: the self-leadership path.  In other words, as there are no leaders by absolute; anyone has the capacity to be, and should be a leader.  It requires a feeling of deep meaning and lots of reflection, but it is a wonderful life when there is this realisation and the practice: I am my own leader.

Warren Bennis who is probably the greatest expert on leadership used to say that to have a position is just a means to express and perform a person’s leadership[2], and that position may be a CEO of a company, a manager of a charity organisation or a parent, as they all share the same motto:  A leader is a person you will follow to a place you would not go by yourself.

The basic reason why to be a leader is so good is not much the position a leader can reach in society or how many people he or she may influence, but by using that as a leverage, he or she can reach a stage of self-leadership, a point where life is a consequence of thoughts, feelings, attitude and awareness.

And this is the Reason Zero why it is so good to be a leader, the reason present in the tale of the church Dean, in your story of leadership or mine:

Embrace what you are and understand the reasons to be a leader, by experiencing your self-leadership.

(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)



[1] Joel Barker is an American academic who become renowned by his work on paradigms.  You can check this quote here: http://www.joelbarker.com/perfect-quotes/a-leader-is-someone-you-choose-to-follow-to-a-place-you-would-not-go-by-yourself/
[2] Bennis, Warren (1989), On Becoming a Leader. Century Business. Bennis was a very important scholar who has done extensive research on the topic of leadership.