Sunday, October 25, 2015

No? Yes? Maybe?

Decision is quite complicated nowadays as options are unlimited.

How to help people to make better decisions? These are some tips so that you can make your decisions with less or no doubts:

  1. Get in touch with both: your logical side and your soft side, which can be intuition, creativity or spirituality.
  2. Practice with your logical side doing brain exercises. At least, solve some SUDOKU...
  3. Practice your soft side according to the type. If it is intuition, go for a walk and let your feet follow your thoughts; if it is creativity, go into creative problems and solutions, and if it is spirituality, pray or meditate.
  4. Decisions are not unidimensional, so it is important to use both sides to make a decision. Let your head and heart talk on the matter.
  5. After making a decision in your mind, implement it. Don't procrastinate.
  6. After implementing, check the results and how you feel.
  7. Do a self-coaching: congratulate yourself for the success and understand any mistake or anything that could be done better.
  8. Again, get in touch with both sides...


Sunday, October 18, 2015

Change by reflecting on your own thoughts

With the art of reflection, a Greek man was able to calculate the size of Earth to an impressive approximation, before Christ, without travelling and with no special gadgets. Equally, another Greek deduced that there was a very small particle, the atom. In other words: reflect and the impossible becomes possible.

Just think what could happen to your life if you too reflect on your reality, finding hidden solutions For instance, before putting a thought into action you reflect on it and then, act based on it... What would happen?

Thoughts are not made for action. They happen in a very different environment - our minds - where reality is quite subjective. When you are hungry, your mind fantasizes with things that possibly you can't eat as you don't have the time to cook it, the money to buy it or you are in a diet.

Before action, thoughts go through an inner process: first, without you knowing it, you check your thoughts according to your present awareness (I am in a diet!!) and make a decision on the basis of that. It is that decision, a processed series of thoughts that goes into action.

However, if you have a life-changing decision as a change of career or a divorce, that process is not enough. Awareness is an ambiguous thing - maybe you are aware of the wrong things...

The best and worst example is racism. During an occasion where a person meets another person with a different skin color, the racist would be fully aware of his or her skin color, something he does not often think about (I guess you just did, right?). The inner process is not enough to provide a reality check on the thought or perception of superiority of one race over another. We need an extra tool so that we re-assess thoughts and make different decisions.

A very deep reflection with a powerful set of questions may help a person to do exactly that.

  • Why don't I feel comfortable around this person?
  • What is it I value more from one person? How do I see that in this particular individual?
  • Where is this belief coming from? How worthwhile is to keep it?
  • What would be another way to approach this person?


After that, decision will be made with more confidence and clarity. If a change is required, the person will start to move on that direction, and without knowing it, you have changed your own world!!

Sunday, October 11, 2015

Time management in unmanageable times

When I was just starting to work on IT, trying to understand computers and users, my job was pretty boring... So, I got distracted with some booklets I found scattered around. They came from a Time Management course my boss took and two things stroke me: first, the interesting ideas and, second, how my boss just ignored them...

Time management is a wonderful tool and an incredible theory, but its use in the practical life, a VERY BUSY practical life, is not so easy for it demands discipline and focus.

Besides, some of the champions in Time Management consider their success based on their ability in managing their time and not in its results. Life, especially corporate and business life, is not happy with a manager, a coach or a CEO who is able to manage his or her time very well... Others would want to see an outcome for that.

Results are quite hard to be experienced and one of the reasons is the unmanageable times you are living. We are living a very particular period of our history, a time that Peter Drücker, a consultants' prophet, has foreseen: a time we are not sure what is going on and we are less sure what will happen in the future.

We can go and make changes in our way of managing times (as I am doing this year), but still we cannot catch up with reality as it was probably more possible twenty years ago.

What to do then? Just flow and let it be? Or maybe creating even another tool to help you managing your time? I would like to explore that…

Let's talk about consciousness. Since I have seen those booklets, I have started my own way of managing time, which helped me to create a basis for courses and seminars I give. My main focus, however is not the method as it is, but the awareness of time the person has to develop.

As humans, we have created a very complex way of considering time. Although we can understand easily concepts as VERY SOON or LATE, we are ruled by a psychological sense of time rather than a real one. For instance, if you enjoy a two-days holiday somewhere, a place where you are happy and everything works fine, you will feel the time is very SHORT, even though it is the same time as when you had to work and finish your company accounts, which probably looked as very LONG.

The trick in Time Management is to reconcile your own perception of time with others' perception and the real clock-time. That means you need to do three things:
  • Strength your own leadership. The only way to do something as mentioned before and survive in the process is when you are a leader. Although there are many concepts of leadership, three things are important in relation to Time Management, and you can cultivate them: your self-control, your own sense of being an example and a clear picture of your vision of the present and future for both, yourself and the organization you are leading.
  • Value your own values. Rushing around or procrastinating do not only affect your health and others' patience, it may also affect your values. For a check-up on your values and, in relation to Time Management, check these three values to see if they are being put into action or just serving as a decoration for your speeches: patience will help you when others are not committed enough, perseverance will help you to educate others and try again, and introspection (or calmness)will help you to check your own commitment and make the needed changes.
  • Use real methods. Ah, that is a must!! You can take as many courses of Time Management (want my cell phone number?) or attend to a thousand seminars, and yet, all of it may be is inapplicable to your reality. Ask three questions and make the necessary improvements: is what I am doing aligned with my needs? Are we, other people around me and i, really experiencing benefit by using these methods? Is there any way i can manage time better?



Well... time is up!! Get up and start to apply your own consciousness into your time.

Sunday, October 4, 2015

In the morning, what do you think?

Some people say your first meal will define the strength for the day. Could you say the same about the first thoughts we have?

The day is full of opportunities and threats, of hopes and expectations, beautiful roses and huge thorns. Are you going out there dressed as casual as possible, or like a warrior waiting for the next battle?

Your first thoughts will direct your energy towards the day. With some techniques, you can even change a threat into an opportunity. If you meditate before coming out your place, you can experience the energy you need to fulfill your hopes and enjoy the challenge presented by expectations. Those thoughts can prepare you to admire the roses and understand the thorns around.

If you are interested in improving that part of your life, I have a few tips that can be useful and I have good wishes for you that your life will be always a source of contentment.
1. Sleep well. Very well.
2. But, before sleeping, read, watch or listen to something positive. So, if you just saw your favorite episode with pieces of bodies everywhere, then it is important to disconnect and connect to a positive reality, something that encourages you.
3. When you just wake, sit and have a few thoughts in silence, prayer, meditation, contemplation or reflection.
4. After that, enjoy the next hour or so doing positive and constructive things. Read something spiritual, a bit of yoga or joggling can be very good options.
5. During the day, connect whatever is going on with those first moments of your life.