Sunday, September 3, 2017

Pressure is easy to handle - Reason 9

Pressure is increasing, coming from all sides: work, family, mind, desires, aims, co-workers, bosses, community, news, social network, etc.  And it looks scarier day by day with clear consequences to the mental and physical health.

Leadership helps to understand the pressures and create a sustainable strategy to face them instead of avoiding or running away from them.

The fundamental power a leader has is that she or he has chosen everything they live, no matter if they are roses or thorns.  When a leader is living through a rosy period, he or she just enjoy life and that is the time to relax and plan for the future; when the period is thorny, then all that energy a leader has may be used to help her or him to win over and go through any obstacle.

That means you as a leader know the apparent causes for pressure and you can deal with them.  Not only that, but stress won’t come to you while you are managing that burden, or at least, you will be able to manage it and keep it at low levels.


Do you know the reason? Any situation that creates pressure is a game for a leader and a play with many actors and roles.

(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)

Sunday, August 20, 2017

A great life has a basic formula and that is: 100% happiness - Reason 7

Not too easy that you may buy anywhere, but not too difficult that you won’t have ever: happiness.  For people in general, the pursuit of happiness takes a big part of their lives, and yet it is often motivated by the existence of sadness, sorrow or any type of negative state of mind.

Because of that, people often look for happiness from external sources like a good job, an excellent college study or good health.  However, happiness is more a question of perception, attitude and perspective than the situation in itself; this is why you can look behind and see happier days, even though resources were scarce.

For a leader’s point of view, everything gives you happiness or shows you a path towards happiness, no matter the circumstances as he or she bases happiness on an inner state.


That gives leaders strength to change the bad into good, waste into best and a bad reality into a wonderful challenge.  So, she or he does need to go through sadness, as there is always something to be happy about.

(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)

Sunday, August 13, 2017

A leader can always forgive… - Reason 6

It is generally accepted the power of forgiveness:  it heals and it creates an impact on different levels, even on the economy of places torn apart by civil wars or different upheavals[1].

But there are not many people who are able to forgive others.  When they do, they may do it for some people, but not everyone; even then, just some times, not always.  And if you coexist with other people, you probably agree that everyone makes a mistake from time to time and lots of people make mistakes many times…

That is why it is so good to be a leader, as there is the possibility of forgiving everyone as we live in a state of co-dependency, and leaders are a fundamental part of that.

It does not mean that a leader won’t supervise or correct something that is wrong, but his or her heart keeps clean in relation to that person and there will be always another opportunity for the other one.

Maybe It sounds as something impossible or saintly, but it is not like that.  On one hand, there is a practical reason for a leader to forgive and leave the doors open to others: the need of people, good and skilled people, pushes leaders to be pragmatic and invest more of their time and energy in training and education.

On the other hand, by forgiving a person there is an example for others who won’t fear to make mistakes, after all, if you really want to be innovative and do great things, errors are part of the process.


(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)


[1] The Role of Forgiveness in Reconstructing Society After Conflict.  https://sites.tufts.edu/jha/archives/140


Sunday, August 6, 2017

A leader will understand tragedies, by creating an inner change that will transform the world. - Reason 5

Many tragedies happen.  Every day.  With the rise of social media, adding to an already impressive media, calamities come to our home, office and life in general, overflowing our hearts with emotions and sometimes sadness.

As a leader, you won’t find sorrow in this news as they will be a chance for you to check the self and see how you may help.

It is possible to help sending money or food, but at times, help is more subtle: good wishes, good thoughts or good vibrations.

The most important contribution anyone can do is a change in the self.  As a species, we are all interconnected and by provoking a personal change, in a very incognito way, what you are doing is inspiring others to change…


Most of the disasters happening around the world come because of misuse of resources; indirectly, they are made by humans.  A wave of change may help in that, avoiding future disasters or helping people affected right now.

(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)

Sunday, July 30, 2017

Instead of putting up with someone’s behaviour, you are able to tolerate it, which helps him or her to change - Reason 4

One of the big challenges we live in our modern society is diversity.  On one hand, it opens an incredible space for learning and change; on the other hand, humans are not made to live with people who are too different from themselves.

It is a fact everyone likes to live with other people who are equal to them, or at least have some similitude.  When you have to live with people who are too different, well, you just grit your teeth and move on.

As a leader, you don’t do that.  Instead, you use one of the most powerful capacities any leader has: tolerance.

Tolerance is an internal power that enables its owner to live her or his own life as it is, without being disturbed by others’ behaviour.  In fact, a tolerant person gives others a very valuable lesson on how to deal with differences.  And as we know, learning is changing.

Tolerance enables others to change not because they have to, but because the leader is giving so much to them that they feel the need and benefit of changing.  By changing on the basis of tolerance a common and strong ground is built, easing the relationship and helping each other to adapt to the other.

(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)

Sunday, July 23, 2017

Your example convinces others - Reason 3

Convincing others to do something is a big part of doing your job as a manager or being a parent, which is not an easy duty; you don’t have even the option of yelling at them!  Frustrating, right?

It would be if you were not a leader.  But as you are, it is a wonderful challenge you accept from the heart, because there is the understanding that there is no need to convince anybody. Besides, it is a waste of time.

Your way of dealing with others is based on your life and that is your main power: you are an example for others.

Giving example is a task in itself because it does not work automatically.  A model takes time to have the desired effect and the reason is very simple: everyone has their own way of doing things.


So, when people see someone doing the same thing but in a different way, there is a clash between the way I do and the way others do.  A leader solves this conflict by either giving them proof their way is the best, or by being humble enough to accept others’ way.

(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)

Sunday, July 16, 2017

Every day you look at your family and friends from a fresh perspective - Reason 2

People get used to each other and fall very easily into routine.  And as someone once said, routine kills love.

In fact, there is nothing wrong about routine… It’s great!  The problem is the attitude that emerges from activities that don’t require your discernment, intelligence or intuition.  Those three make relationships and your life in general richer, no matter for how long you have been with them.

Your family and friends are extremely important for you.  They create a safe zone where you can make mistakes and learn how to do them right, without serious consequences – in a company, THEY FIRE YOU for the same errors your partner has pointed to you.

As a leader, you see them as more than just people.  They are your day-to-day heroes, rescuing you from stress, horrible decisions to be made and peer-pressure.  This attitude enables the leader to find a new thing about each one everyday, something small or big, full of impact or almost irrelevant, that makes them even more incredible.

In fact, what you are doing is stimulating their leadership since when you look at them like that, the Pygmalion Effect[1] takes place and wonders happen from apparently ordinary people.


(Excerpt from the book 82 Reasons to be a Leader)




[1] The Pygmalion Effect is an internal process that happens when a person looks at others with a higher vision, provoking an increase on the other person’s performance, results or state of mind.  See more about that here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pygmalion_effect