There are several
reasons to change and I think you are a person who likes, or at least WANTS to
change, right?
But there are a few
reasons to NOT change, even though situations are pushing you to do that.
The first thing is
when you are trying to adapt to another person’s way of life. Of course, if you
are a partner or a room-mate, then both will have to adapt, but many times, it
is a one-way expectation, and that is not right. Create a dialogue with the other
person and check how both of you can adapt to each other or alternatives.
The second reason is
when the changes that are expected from you won’t benefit you. There are cases
when they will benefit others; check how to do it in such a way you don’t feel
a loss. But, in general, if something is not beneficial to you, don’t do it.
Talk with others and see how you can accommodate, without losing that which is
precious in you.
Third, when the
changes that are expected from you won’t benefit others, similar to the second
reason. There are cases when they will benefit you; check how to do it in such
a way others don’t feel a loss. But, in general, if something is not beneficial
to others, avoid doing it. Talk with others and see how both sides can
accommodate, without losing that which is precious for them.
Now, if you are not
fully convinced of any change, reflect upon it. Maybe it is the method you
don’t like or the possible outcome; by reflecting and realizing, it is possible
you can change or you can reach the conclusion you won’t follow that particular
change.
A last advice: you are
your own leader. Don’t react, don’t change because situations change and don’t
try to make others change. Reflect, meditate and understand before promoting a
change in yourself.
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