Speaking, More Than Just Words

 

How much do I speak? This is my reflection today, because I speak a lot. Not only verbally, but also through many virtual platforms: emails, messages, social media, video calls, voice notes... And I am not the only one, as every day we are constantly sending messages to the world.

Yet, despite all these channels, communication often seems more difficult than ever.

Part of the challenge comes from the speed of modern life, something to be taken at another time. Another part comes from something more fundamental: a lack of communication skills.

We do have many tools, but not always the ability to use them wisely.

Good communication begins long before words leave our mouths. It starts with clarity of thought. If our ideas are confused, our message will likely be confusing as well.

It also requires values such as lightness, respect and genuine consideration for those who receive our message.

Perhaps most importantly, meaningful communication comes from the heart. People rarely remember every word we say, but they often remember how we made them feel.

Communication is multidimensional. Others receive our message not only through words, but through tone of voice, facial expressions, gestures, timing, and even the environment in which the interaction takes place. A simple message can be strengthened - or weakened - by these subtle elements.

Before speaking, writing or posting, it may be worth asking ourselves: What message am I truly sending? And what energy accompanies it?

In other words, when our communication becomes more conscious, our relationships become more harmonious. And that benefits everyone.

The value of trust in a very distrustful world

 

Trust used to be something almost invisible. You would read the news, answer a phone call, meet someone new and there was a natural tendency to believe. Maybe not blindly, but at least enough to build relationships, communities and even daily routines.

Now things feel different.

We double-check messages. We wonder if a photo was edited, if a voice was cloned or a headline was generated just to manipulate us. Deepfakes, scams and fake information are no longer strange exceptions; they have become part of our modern life. And that mistrust is like a ghost in the background.

Slowly, something dangerous happens: distrust stops being protection and becomes a habit. We stop believing in our children, in boss’ argument about our work, in the quality of our relationships…

The problem is that human life cannot function without trust. Every friendship, family bond, team, spiritual path and meaningful conversation depend on some degree of openness toward another person. If you are travelling in your plane you have to trust the person beside you, when you go the supermarket and you trust the factory that produced something good for you… When you vote, choose or make any decision, trust is a key element.

Of course, trust has always carried risks as any person may let us down, systems can fail and promises could be broken. But living in permanent suspicion is something else and it has a cost: when we stop trusting completely, we isolate ourselves emotionally, we become cynical, exhausted. Alone.

I am not suggesting here to trust blindly, but to trust wisely.

Not every voice deserves credibility, not every image deserves belief, not every product in the supermarket was done properly, but not every person deserves suspicion either, and the same applies to the whole society and the structure in which we are living.

Wise trust begins internally by first being honest with ourselves, more stable emotionally and aligned with our own values. In this way, we also become better at sensing authenticity in others, discernment grows and trust is positively affected by that.

And maybe that is how trust will come back to us. I don’t think we can go back to that time we would open the door of our lives to anyone, but, with wisdom, discernment and our own honesty, trust will become part of our background again, and our doors will be open to many.

In a world where almost everything can be fabricated, genuine human sincerity becomes one of the most valuable things we can offer each other.

A quest for a sustainable motivation

 Motivation is good; as human beings, we all need it. Otherwise, even very necessary - and urgent - tasks won’t be performed. But things are more complex nowadays, with the demands of our jobs, family life, spiritual endeavors, and even our health.

So, I would like to explore motivation as a quest, through a few stories.

A close friend once had a very important role during a program for almost 1,000 people. His task was fundamental… yet he was late. We met at a bus stop, and while I was feeling anxious because of the delay, he was completely tranquil. After some time on the bus, we also became calm, influenced by his attitude. Then, suddenly, he started to get agitated. Eventually, he literally ran from the bus towards the auditorium, leaving us stunned. For many, motivation arises at the edge of anxiety; for others, that same edge creates worry. But this type of motivation can also feed the habit of procrastination - and quietly damage productivity.

Someone once changed jobs for a better salary. After a while, something felt missing… Looking for that same sense of drive, he moved again - and then again. Each time, the promise was greater, the reward slightly higher. Until he found himself repeating the same cycle: arriving, adjusting, and soon after, searching again. Material motivation - money, possessions - works well, but it carries a subtle side effect: satisfaction is short-lived, and sometimes it even deepens dissatisfaction.

A person had always dreamed of a house in the countryside, and one day, she made it happen. So much happiness. But slowly, the silence became heavy. Loneliness appeared, as it often does in rural areas. At some point, fear crept in. And when anxiety took over, clarity disappeared. She couldn’t find a way forward and drifted into despair. Even the most beautiful dream can turn into a nightmare. First, work on it, shape it, prepare for it and only then… live it.

I met her many years ago. She was young, vibrant, full of life. Then illness came - a deteriorating condition that changed everything. It was hard, painful, and at times heartbreaking. But something shifted. Over time, she learned not only to cope, but to transform that experience. She wrote a book in Spanish, The Healing Energy of Sickness, and began to share a different perspective: that even illness can become a source of growth. Today, she spreads hope - a hope born from a motivation she never expected. Motivation comes from how we perceive reality. Even the most difficult situations can become a source of strength.

There are people who naturally motivate others, and others who don’t. I know someone whose presence feels… wholesome. Being around him is both a pleasure and an honor. He doesn’t push; he invites. He inspires people to look within and discover their own potential - not just what they can do, but who they can be. And perhaps most importantly, when he leaves, something remains. True motivators are measured by the lasting effect they have on others.

And then, there is another path. I’ve faced many obstacles in my life - moments when I almost gave up. But I kept returning: making effort, meditating, studying, refining my attention. At some point, something became clear. I realized that I could become my own source of motivation. Since then, I’ve tried to sustain that awareness. In such a complex world, self-motivation carries a quiet strength - but only when it comes from self-leadership, particularly self-control and self-empowerment.

Motivation is not a single moment; it is a continuous process. And perhaps understanding this… allows us to remain, more often, in a state of quiet satisfaction.