On venting, speaking, talking and dialoguing

Human relationships are complicated, right? Maybe we like someone and we don’t tell them; perhaps we dislike someone and we DO TELL THEM, destroying the poor soul… And what about keep feelings and emotions about others? I am sure that is called grudges.

Focus on that, there are basically 4 ways to deal with those emotions and feeling:

You may vent, that is, you just say what is in your heart. Venting may work in terms of relieving the mind of that huge emotional burden, but it is possible the problem behind it persists and so, results are minimal.

If you just go around speaking about those emotions and feelings, that is called gossip and it does not have much value, really. Besides when you gossip about others, a very bad vibration will be generated and probably, those emotions and feelings will get worse.

To talk about your feelings and emotions, particularly if you do with the people involved with them, works very well. It means sharing and looking for understanding, maybe a solution, a closure.

When you learn to dialogue, things can be solved in a different level as it allows the flow of emotions and feelings, providing deep and long-term solutions, by also generating a space for venting and talking.

You may choose the option that is the best for your situation, the most important thing is to liberate your heart.

How many steps a person has to take to be considered a person?

In a very old song, a question is posed: how many roads must a man walk down, before you call him a man?[1]

Although no answer is given, for me it means society measures people according to parameters related to results: how many, how much… and yet, people don’t really take into account the effort others are doing.

Years ago I was a professor at a university near Bogota and I gave the students (who were all managers) homework about leadership. After giving marks, I was approached by one of the groups, (the one with fewer marks); of course, they were complaining, but their reasoning still echoes in my mind so many years later: I didn’t value their effort, only the result.

So, just take a look at yourself, understanding what you have done and the reasons behind, so that you would reach to this point: accept what you see, celebrate it.

Take a look at others and take your time to understand their own reasons: accept what you see, celebrate with them.

Results will come, maybe not the ones expected, but they will come and when they come, you can act accordingly, but don’t let that preventing you to acknowledge a person as they are, including yourself.

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[1] Blowin’ in the wind, by Bob Dylan

Have we grown up and just forgotten how to be children?

A friend of mine recently conducted a workshop about the inner child and it was very successful! But it was the bad side of the inner child: harming my inner child.

It may happen because we refuse to let that little child emerge and shine through us.

In fact, we are complete beings who have chosen, whether it is willingly or not, to play a part at some point in time. We choose to be what we think is to be 30 years old or 15 years old, but we have the main basic ingredients needed to be a 6 years old or 60 years old, at least in our awareness.

So, are you a little depressed? Things are not working right? Have you fought with your best friend? You have all the components of a 6 years-old, who would be joyful by running under the rain, always hopeful and looking for a way to make it up with their best friend.

Come on… stop reading this (not now, please, just one or two lines more), go outside and just be happy by seeing… things… All is awesome for your inner child’s eyes. Try it; I am sure you will enjoy a lot!

When being creative is the solution, the only solution

 The 9 points puzzle.

Out of the box!

Just do it!

 

Creativity is a spark that changes reality in ways that are often unthinkable before it emerges. It makes life a funny experience and a it creates a novelty.

But creativity is more than that as it changes the mindset enabling the person to see something else… beyond the situation…

When you allow creativity to take up the flow of your life, it means you are allowing yourself to dare, to go against the odds and to think beyond the present paradigm.

Problems emerge partly because of the way you get into the depth of the present life; by being creative you are moving away, moving towards a new horizon and new possibilities.

In reality if you have a problem, the ONLY solution (at least one of the first ones) is to challenge your concepts and ideas, to try something new, to be creative.

So ignite the spark and a fire in your life, burning the old and open space for the new to come into your existence.