There are
probably two killers of any relationship, common to any people no matter where
they live or to which culture they belong to: routine and sincerity.
Particularly
it is interesting on how this high praised and needed virtue can be a
relationship killer. Honesty is fundamental, but in its heavy metal version, where honest words taste like bullets and
hearts are destroyed, sincerity turns to be lethal.
And yet…
Well, by studying virtues, I have notice they cannot work by themselves and
they need to pair in the right order. For instance, humility can make people turn losers in life, but with courage or self-esteem, it helps bosses to be effective, human oriented and
very effective.
At times
when lying is so common and socially accepted in many cultures I know, at least
at some level, an honest person is extremely valuable. Sincerity is even more treasured,
as the person will have the courage to say whatever is in his mind… with kindness.
Probably the
most spiritual and kind man I know, he is able to make you realize your
mistakes without really telling them. He is open and trusting, and yet he is
clear about his thoughts and feelings and don’t act against them, which is the core
of sincerity.
Without sincerity,
a relationship will be like a cliff hanger: you are really not sure about what
will happen next…
Kindness,
gentleness and mercy help sincerity to become an asset to the soul, enabling
the individual to break walls that prevent an open exchange and build bridges
that strengthen the relationship.
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