Values are
invisible, so it is difficult to understand what someone’s values are or even
your own.
And yet, it
defines three important things in our lives:
- The way a person accomplishes his dream. Values help defining methods and forms to reach goals.
- Present activities and the idea of satisfaction. That is the reason some people get fulfillment in tasks that others hate…
- Time a relationship lasts. At the extent others are aligned with your values, that will help a relationship to last longer than others.
If we just
focus on one of these items, we may realize the power in values.
It is not
necessary that others share your values exactly, but they must be aligned. In this
case, we have to consider values not only as honesty, but also some that are more
complex. For instance, an outdoor
lifestyle is a value.
That value
is easy to understand in terms of relationship, because if a person like that
marries or befriends someone whose value is indoor
lifestyle, there will be a problem. However, if the other person has a
value of enjoying life as much as
possible, then it won’t be difficult for the relationship to live on.
Before getting
into a serious relationship with another person, compare your values and see if
they match. If they don’t, and you still want to keep them around, talk. Dialogue
is a wonderful tool that helps aligning values very well.
Let’s consider
the former example of clashed values, understanding that the other person is a
friend of yours. Sit down and plan activities that will make the other happy,
but it wouldn’t make one of you suffer.
Going deeper,
it is important to think in long term and long
term means seeing reality in a different way. For instance, different values
can teach you other virtues you don’t have and they are important to live a
life of harmony – yes, harmony, because you cannot have really harmony in this
world when people have equal values… Harmony is a conquest, a victory of the
soul over his or her personal desires.
Even deeper
is the spiritual perspective with which you can live with anyone, no matter
what their values are. Only condition is that you know exactly your values and
how to mold yourself into a peaceful and rich coexistence.
My humble
suggestion is that you start to create a personal list of values, understand
them deeply and compare them with the people with you right now. Then, talk,
dialogue and enjoy the adventure of living with others.
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