As social beings, one of the main skills we need to develop is the art of friendship. But for that, you need first of all to win some friends.
A relative is something different; you don't choose. But a friend comes from a choice and a selection. It comes from your own power of discernment and decision-making.
Whilst some people can give you very powerful tips on how to get friends, we have to understand that word a little better. A friend is not something so easy as he will share your deepest secrets, and he or she will share theirs. It is like doing an open-heart surgery: you need courage and clarity on what you are doing.
Probably the period of life we have more friends is during our childhood. Innocence helps a lot as we don't request too much and there are not that many secrets to share anyway. Along the life, number of friends decreases until you have very few. Out of those few, some are just for mentioning but there will be even fewer you can count on them for anything, and they will count on you for anything.
Translating that into a world of competition, where people try to beat you all the time and the chances for prosperity look smaller and smaller, that means those selected people in your life that you know will back you up no matter what happens.
A friend is someone who can help you in many different ways like listening without judging, offering help without waiting for reward and loving you, even when you are not lovable...
Yes, that will definitely help you in your productivity or in finding a better job. Or simply, it will help you to be a better human being, because that is the reason of having friends.
And how to get a friend? Any formula?
My main advice is just to not get too shy with people, don't get used to the Facebook "friends" and allow life to put you in touch with people you can get tuned easily.
When you do have a friend, avoid too many emails or text messages and make your best to share some quality moments together. You will feel the difference in your life when that happens.
You can't hunt or buy a friend, but I am sure there are lots of people out there who are just waiting for you to open a little bit and let them enter in your life.
Enjoy friendship!
That was interesting. I got a surprising download (Blessing from Above) at Rakhi (a special spiritual) ceremony: "You have the gift of friendship" use it." A friend pointed out it was one of the "16 celestial Arts" something I am not too familiar with...So your blog was first stop in finding out what this is about. of course, the only REAL 'research' we can all do is to ...apply..i.e.USE and experiment ...which does take faith and courage...but only way to reap results. Thank you for having a blog. Om shanti. I am SO SO grateful to have unlimited resources from the Source which I have found through Raja Yoga introduction www.bkwsu.org.
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