There are several reasons to change and I think you are a person who likes, or at least WANTS to change, right?
But there
are a few reasons to NOT change, even though situations are pushing you to do
that.
The first
thing is when you are trying to adapt to another person’s way of life. Of course,
if you are a partner or a room-mate, then both will have to adapt, but many
times, it is a one-way expectation, and that is not right. Create a dialogue with
the other person and check how both of you can adapt to each other or
alternatives.
The second
reason is when the changes that are expected from you won’t benefit you. There are
cases when they will benefit others; check how to do it in such a way you don’t
feel a loss. But, in general, if something is not beneficial to you, don’t do
it. Talk with others and see how you can accommodate, without losing that which
is precious in you.
Third, when
the changes that are expected from you won’t benefit others, similar to the
second reason. There are cases when they will benefit you; check how to do it in
such a way others don’t feel a loss. But, in general, if something is not
beneficial to others, avoid doing it. Talk with others and see how both sides can
accommodate, without losing that which is precious for them.
Now, if you
are not fully convinced of any change, reflect upon it. Maybe it is the method
you don’t like or the possible outcome; by reflecting and realizing, it is
possible you can change or you can reach the conclusion you won’t follow that particular
change.
A last
advice: you are your own leader. Don’t react, don’t change because situations
change and don’t try to make others change. Reflect, meditate and understand before
promoting a change in yourself.
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