And that is true. As I browse today's news, corruption and lies make the headlines. Nobody talks about people who stick to their own honesty; after all, honesty does not sell newspaper...
But honesty does create families, it strengthens friendship and it even impacts in our economy through its close cousin, trust. In fact, honesty is natural; a baby cries when is in need of some attention, there is no way the baby will fake that... The opposite, dishonesty, is learnt along the years, watching and observing others.
In an organization environment, honesty is crucial. Dishonesty can get you a customer once, but it will make you lose it forevermore. Dishonesty can avoid a reprimand by your boss, but when you share that with your co-workers, even though they congratulate you for your cleverness, you will love them as true friends; after all, if you lied to your boss, you can lie to any of them.
Even though honesty is not something that shows often in someone's curriculum, it is becoming a very valuable asset for the company. Peter Senge, in this masterpiece, The Fifth Discipline, talks about the practical effect of honesty in a company that sold computers. By sticking to that value, they saw their sales dropping - after all, other companies, using dishonesty as a tool, lied to their customers and were able to get their orders. Later, however the company started climbing and never stopped.
I am not saying you are not honest, but reality is today's people seldom are... From "white lies" to blunt corruption, honesty is living among us and inside us. It has become part of our way of life in such a way that an honest person is not fully honest... it is just that he or she is more honest than others.
OK, how can you develop honesty as a skill? First, let's understand a few of its benefits in the work environment:
- Solid relationship between co-workers, and the different levels of organization.
- Trust builds from honesty, so that the company has more loyalty from their customers.
- It is easier to deal with crisis, as everyone knows what everyone is doing and their capabilities.
- Tough decisions are less complicated as honesty provides the right environment for that to happen.
If you feel you can develop honesty in a higher level, these are some steps that can help you:
- Accept all your flaws and imperfections. As someone said, "perfection exists only in a cv". Don't try to be that right now, enjoy your present stage and don't deny any of that to yourself.
- Get someone you can really trust and always be honest with that person. No matter what, don't hide and don't pretend; that person is the best friend you have, cultivate her or his friendship.
- Any time you tell a lie, or in any other way you break your own honesty, at least be clear about that to yourself. If you don't feel the courage or don't have the time to mend whatever you did, sit down, reflect and meditate. Whenever you feel like, talk to someone about what you did, ask for advice, try and follow it.
- If you make a "heroic" honesty act, give a prize to yourself! Go and spoil yourself with some nice ice-cream, chocolate or a day at the beach.
- Generate spaces of dialogue in your company or family. In this way, little by little you will feel open about telling others what is really happening with you.
- If there is any punishment after you have been honest, talk to the person who did that later. Explain your reasons and listen to their own reasons.
- Love yourself. When you love someone, you can't even think of lying to them...
By practicing this skill, slowly it will become part of your own personality, your own personal ethics. Then, it will be as natural as breathing.